How to Flirt and Develop Flirt-Ability
Flirting is a time honored tradition in the mating ritual which seems to have been lost in our modern hook-up culture. Here are tips for how you can light a romantic flame with new flirting skills.
Dating Advice
Women Must Have High Dating Standards and Boundaries With Men
If a man is trying to get in your life but is not offering you anything that will make your life better, ease some burdens you have and help shoulder responsibilities so that you don’t have to do everything alone, then you don’t need him!
What’s Up With Men Giving Women THEIR Phone Number?
There are several reasons why men give women their number instead of asking for hers like a man should. What is up with these weak wimpy Beta males and their cowardly approach to getting to know a woman?
Toddler Property Laws vs. Dating
Can the toddler property laws about ownership also apply to dating between adults? The sense of entitlement and ownership some men have towards women definitely raises the question.
Overanxious Guy Moving Too Fast Gets the Boot
A young man is confused about why his date kissed him and asked to see him again, then went cold for days – even after he sent her flowers.
Articles by Deb Cooper
Manipulative Things Black Men Say to Make Black Women Jump Through Hoops
In this multi-part series, veteran advice columnist and dating expert Deborrah Cooper (popularly known as “Ms HeartBeat”), takes her single female followers by the hand and leads them through the minefield of the sinister, manipulative, and controlling behaviors of men. From flat out lying to using prisoner of war type mind control techniques, any single […]
Interracial Dating – How White Men Can Date Black Women
Repeatedly black women have expressed to that the biggest fear that Black women have about interracial relationships is the worry that she is being used as a social experiment, fetishized, and not truly loved. Columnist Deborrah Cooper shares insightful tips for non-black males interested in a romantic relationship with a black woman.
Unanswered Questions About a Five Million Dollar School for Black Boys
Umar Johnson is a self-proclaimed “nationally certified” expert on child psychology who is given lots of credit and support for his somewhat controversial and sometimes downright crazy theories. Most recently he has been associated with attempting to collect $5 million to buy the land and buildings of now-defunct historically black college St. Paul College in Lawrenceville, Virginia. Here’s why he’s not the man for the job.
If All the Water Were Removed From the Sea, it Still Wouldn’t Be as Salty as Y’all Are
Jeremy Meeks is a 30 year old former gang member of African American descent caught up in the criminal justice system and locked up in a cell. But as he proved this week, he can pull the positive attention and sexual interest of more women than 75% of the men walking around free. And these salty ass dudes can’t STAND it.
Guest Posts
When a Son Loves His Mother
A loving song sings a wedding day song to his beloved mother. This is the kind of love only mothers and sons have. Congrats to the new Mrs. Watson.
Abusive Relationships: 10 Signs of an Abusive Man
Signs of an abusive man can range from emotional, verbal, physical, or sexual abuse. Frequently an emotionally abusive man is also a verbally abusive man or a combination of several abuse types. Clear signs of an abusive man can usually be found after a few dates if you pay attention, ask a lot of questions and do some investigating into his past.
Dating Tips: Make Your Online Dating Profile Stand Out
Finding love online is possible, and creating a great online profile is the first step to making that happen. Anyone who takes the time to heed the advice in this article is sure to find exactly what they are looking for.
My Muppet Heart
How dating partners resemble Jim Hensen’s Muppets
Interracial/Intercultural Love
Black Woman Japanese Man – What to Teach Our Kids About Race?
How should a black woman and Japanese man handle the complex issues of mixed race children?
White Man with Black Woman Interracial Relationship Needs Clarification
White man in love with black women is confused about the status of their relationship and doesn’t seem to understand that she is not going to give him a title until he lets her know where his head and heart are.
Disappointed in my White Friend Because She Lost Her Virginity to a Black Guy
Reader questions his disappointment in a female friend that lost her virginity to a Black guy instead of a White one.
Do Black women believe stereotypes about White men?
Many Black women seek to date interracially because they believe White men are better than Black men by virtue of their skin color. Is it smart to believe in racial stereotypes?
What's Happening?
40 Days of Rain on DBR Black Men – Index of Posts
This index of our series “40 Days of Rain on DBR (Damaged Beyond Repair) Black Men” provides easy access to our discussion on the behavior and attitudes of black men and how those attitudes and behaviors are damaging to black women, black children and the black community as a whole.
Survey for Women – My Escape from Blackistan
Survey for black women who have through their own efforts successfully removed themselves and their children from the crime-ridden, drug and vermine infested, abusive environments referred to as BLACKISTAN.
President Obama and the Gay Marriage Debate in Black America
Black Americans tend to be very religious and the Christian right is hammering away at Obama for taking a stand on gay marriage rights. This is why I believe his strategy to be inclusive of a marginalized sub-group of Americans was the smartest move any President has ever made.
Leave Women and Girls Alone – Stop Street Harassment Week March 18-24, 2012
March 18-24th is International Stop Street Harassment Week. Girls and women around the world will organize to raise awareness of what gender based street harassment is, how it hurts women, and why it must stop.
Relationships
Why is he ignoring my calls and texts and playing with my head?
Dear Ms. HeartBeat: Me and this guy have been friends for a while, but now we’re getting more intimate. I initiated the relationship by the way. Now he texts me like, “hey let’s get together tonight!” Naturally I respond “yeah sure, what time?” to which he never ever responds and I am left hanging. This has […]
Self-employed husband sleeps day awhile while wife works cooks and cleans
Dear Ms. HeartBeat: My husband and I got married 2-1/2 months ago, but we’ve been together for five years. He was laid off over a year ago and went into business for himself as a commercial mortgage broker. The first part of the year was really hard with some of the deals lingering and not closing, […]
Women Must Have High Dating Standards and Boundaries With Men
If a man is trying to get in your life but is not offering you anything that will make your life better, ease some burdens you have and help shoulder responsibilities so that you don’t have to do everything alone, then you don’t need him!
Why Won’t He Admit That We’re in a Relationship?
Dating for almost a year, he calls 10x a day and spends all his free time with one woman, but still refuses to acknowledge to her, his family, his friends and even himself that he is in a relationship and in love.
Other Recent Posts
Why say you’re going to do something if you don’t follow through?
When a man gets defensive and tries to place blame on his woman about something HE failed to do, that is a major character flaw that should make one reexamine the relationship. Only a man-child refuses to be responsible or accountable for their behavior and tries to make every poor decision and misstep he took a woman’s fault.
My Boyfriend is Bisexual on the Downlow!
A young woman finds out that her boyfriend of two years is living a down low lifestyle and secretly having intimate relations with men. Now she isn’t sure how to handle it or what to do.
Why Do Women Love Men Who Don’t Love Them Back?
A reader observes that the majority of advice letters from women fall into the category of loving men who don’t love them back. Why do the women hang onto these sad, unfulfilling relationships so long?
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