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Engaged for Three Years – How Much Longer Should I Wait?

Engaged for Three Years – How Much Longer Should I Wait?

Dear Ms. HeartBeat: My fiancée and I have been dating for four years and engaged for three this month. I have made repeated attempts at getting the ball rolling to actually walk down the aisle, or even to move in together, but it’s not happening! I know he loves me, but he seems hesitant when […]

By December 6, 2016 0 Comments Read More →
What do I do when my girl asks “how much do you love me?”

What do I do when my girl asks “how much do you love me?”

Dear Ms. HeartBeat: How does a man answer the question: “How much do you love me?” Is there a chart somewhere with the quantifiable data that we can refer to? Is this just a trick question? I mean, if we’ve already said “I love you” to each other, why do we need to have this […]

By November 26, 2016 0 Comments Read More →
Women Must Have High Dating Standards and Boundaries With Men

Women Must Have High Dating Standards and Boundaries With Men

If a man is trying to get in your life but is not offering you anything that will make your life better, ease some burdens you have and help shoulder responsibilities so that you don’t have to do everything alone, then you don’t need him!

By April 30, 2016 0 Comments Read More →
What’s Up With Men Giving Women THEIR Phone Number?

What’s Up With Men Giving Women THEIR Phone Number?

There are several reasons why men give women their number instead of asking for hers like a man should. What is up with these weak wimpy Beta males and their cowardly approach to getting to know a woman?

By November 20, 2014 0 Comments Read More →

Articles by Deb Cooper

What do you mean “black women have an attitude?”

What do you mean “black women have an attitude?”

When some males don’t get what they want from women, they are quick to label her as “having an attitude.” But in the real world, what does that mean? Just because a woman doesn’t show interest in YOU when you show it in HER, doesn’t mean there is anything at all wrong with who or […]

Integrity – The Missing Ingredient in Black Male/Female Relationships

Integrity – The Missing Ingredient in Black Male/Female Relationships

Integrity is defined as “a concept of consistency of actions, values, methods, measures, principles, expectations, and outcomes. In ethics, integrity is regarded as the honesty and truthfulness or accuracy of one’s actions. Let me call out the keywords in this definition that are often missed: consistency, honesty, truthfulness, and accuracy of one’s actions. Consistency is […]

Manipulative Things Black Men Say to Make Black Women Jump Through Hoops

Manipulative Things Black Men Say to Make Black Women Jump Through Hoops

In this multi-part series, veteran advice columnist and dating expert Deborrah Cooper (popularly known as “Ms HeartBeat”), takes her single female followers by the hand and leads them through the minefield of the sinister, manipulative, and controlling behaviors of men. From flat out lying to using prisoner of war type mind control techniques, any single […]

By August 13, 2016 0 Comments Read More →
Interracial Dating – How White Men Can Date Black Women

Interracial Dating – How White Men Can Date Black Women

Repeatedly black women have expressed to that the biggest fear that Black women have about interracial relationships is the worry that she is being used as a social experiment, fetishized, and not truly loved. Columnist Deborrah Cooper shares insightful tips for non-black males interested in a romantic relationship with a black woman.

By May 30, 2016 0 Comments Read More →

Guest Posts

When a Son Loves His Mother

When a Son Loves His Mother

A loving song sings a wedding day song to his beloved mother. This is the kind of love only mothers and sons have. Congrats to the new Mrs. Watson.

By April 2, 2013 0 Comments Read More →
Abusive Relationships: 10 Signs of an Abusive Man

Abusive Relationships: 10 Signs of an Abusive Man

Signs of an abusive man can range from emotional, verbal, physical, or sexual abuse. Frequently an emotionally abusive man is also a verbally abusive man or a combination of several abuse types. Clear signs of an abusive man can usually be found after a few dates if you pay attention, ask a lot of questions and do some investigating into his past.

Dating Tips: Make Your Online Dating Profile Stand Out

Dating Tips: Make Your Online Dating Profile Stand Out

Finding love online is possible, and creating a great online profile is the first step to making that happen. Anyone who takes the time to heed the advice in this article is sure to find exactly what they are looking for.

By July 9, 2012 0 Comments Read More →
My Muppet Heart

My Muppet Heart

How dating partners resemble Jim Hensen’s Muppets

By June 15, 2012 0 Comments Read More →

Interracial/Intercultural Love

Black Woman Japanese Man – What to Teach Our Kids About Race?

Black Woman Japanese Man – What to Teach Our Kids About Race?

How should a black woman and Japanese man handle the complex issues of mixed race children?

By October 9, 2012 0 Comments Read More →
White Man with Black Woman Interracial Relationship Needs Clarification

White Man with Black Woman Interracial Relationship Needs Clarification

White man in love with black women is confused about the status of their relationship and doesn’t seem to understand that she is not going to give him a title until he lets her know where his head and heart are.

Disappointed in my White Friend Because She Lost Her Virginity to a Black Guy

Disappointed in my White Friend Because She Lost Her Virginity to a Black Guy

Reader questions his disappointment in a female friend that lost her virginity to a Black guy instead of a White one.

By February 23, 2012 0 Comments Read More →
Do Black women believe stereotypes about White men?

Do Black women believe stereotypes about White men?

Many Black women seek to date interracially because they believe White men are better than Black men by virtue of their skin color. Is it smart to believe in racial stereotypes?

By November 30, 2011 0 Comments Read More →

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40 Days of Rain on DBR Black Men – Index of Posts

40 Days of Rain on DBR Black Men – Index of Posts

This index of our series “40 Days of Rain on DBR (Damaged Beyond Repair) Black Men” provides easy access to our discussion on the behavior and attitudes of black men and how those attitudes and behaviors are damaging to black women, black children and the black community as a whole.

By October 2, 2013 0 Comments Read More →
Survey for Women – My Escape from Blackistan

Survey for Women – My Escape from Blackistan

Survey for black women who have through their own efforts successfully removed themselves and their children from the crime-ridden, drug and vermine infested, abusive environments referred to as BLACKISTAN.

By March 31, 2013 0 Comments Read More →
President Obama and the Gay Marriage Debate in Black America

President Obama and the Gay Marriage Debate in Black America

Black Americans tend to be very religious and the Christian right is hammering away at Obama for taking a stand on gay marriage rights. This is why I believe his strategy to be inclusive of a marginalized sub-group of Americans was the smartest move any President has ever made.

By May 11, 2012 0 Comments Read More →
Leave Women and Girls Alone – Stop Street Harassment Week March 18-24, 2012

Leave Women and Girls Alone – Stop Street Harassment Week March 18-24, 2012

March 18-24th is International Stop Street Harassment Week. Girls and women around the world will organize to raise awareness of what gender based street harassment is, how it hurts women, and why it must stop.

Relationships

Join Me for the First “Debinar” on Better Understanding Yourself

Join Me for the First “Debinar” on Better Understanding Yourself

In a Google Webinar poll, I asked women to share the top three concerns or problem areas they had in their lives and in their relationships. My goal was to hear directly from site visitors and YouTube subscribers the topics they’d most want me to address in a planned webinar series. Hands down the #1 […]

Engaged for Three Years – How Much Longer Should I Wait?

Engaged for Three Years – How Much Longer Should I Wait?

Dear Ms. HeartBeat: My fiancée and I have been dating for four years and engaged for three this month. I have made repeated attempts at getting the ball rolling to actually walk down the aisle, or even to move in together, but it’s not happening! I know he loves me, but he seems hesitant when […]

By December 6, 2016 0 Comments Read More →
What do I do when my girl asks “how much do you love me?”

What do I do when my girl asks “how much do you love me?”

Dear Ms. HeartBeat: How does a man answer the question: “How much do you love me?” Is there a chart somewhere with the quantifiable data that we can refer to? Is this just a trick question? I mean, if we’ve already said “I love you” to each other, why do we need to have this […]

By November 26, 2016 0 Comments Read More →
Why is he ignoring my calls and texts and playing with my head?

Why is he ignoring my calls and texts and playing with my head?

Dear Ms. HeartBeat: Me and this guy have been friends for a while, but now we’re getting more intimate. I initiated the relationship by the way. Now he texts me like, “hey let’s get together tonight!” Naturally I respond “yeah sure, what time?” to which he never ever responds and I am left hanging. This has […]

By August 21, 2016 0 Comments Read More →

Other Recent Posts

Self-employed husband sleeps day awhile while wife works cooks and cleans

Self-employed husband sleeps day awhile while wife works cooks and cleans

Dear Ms. HeartBeat: My husband and I got married 2-1/2 months ago, but we’ve been together for five years. He was laid off over a year ago and went into business for himself as a commercial mortgage broker. The first part of the year was really hard with some of the deals lingering and not closing, […]

By August 19, 2016 0 Comments Read More →
How to Flirt and Develop Flirt-Ability

How to Flirt and Develop Flirt-Ability

Flirting is a time honored tradition in the mating ritual which seems to have been lost in our modern hook-up culture. Here are tips for how you can light a romantic flame with new flirting skills.

By July 17, 2015 0 Comments Read More →
Why Won’t He Admit That We’re in a Relationship?

Why Won’t He Admit That We’re in a Relationship?

Dating for almost a year, he calls 10x a day and spends all his free time with one woman, but still refuses to acknowledge to her, his family, his friends and even himself that he is in a relationship and in love.

Why say you’re going to do something if you don’t follow through?

Why say you’re going to do something if you don’t follow through?

When a man gets defensive and tries to place blame on his woman about something HE failed to do, that is a major character flaw that should make one reexamine the relationship. Only a man-child refuses to be responsible or accountable for their behavior and tries to make every poor decision and misstep he took a woman’s fault.

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