Dating Advice
Engaged for Three Years – How Much Longer Should I Wait?
Dear Ms. HeartBeat: My fiancée and I have been dating for four years and engaged for three this month. I have made repeated attempts at getting the ball rolling to actually walk down the aisle, or even to move in together, but it’s not happening! I know he loves me, but he seems hesitant when […]
What do I do when my girl asks “how much do you love me?”
Dear Ms. HeartBeat: How does a man answer the question: “How much do you love me?” Is there a chart somewhere with the quantifiable data that we can refer to? Is this just a trick question? I mean, if we’ve already said “I love you” to each other, why do we need to have this […]
Women Must Have High Dating Standards and Boundaries With Men
If a man is trying to get in your life but is not offering you anything that will make your life better, ease some burdens you have and help shoulder responsibilities so that you don’t have to do everything alone, then you don’t need him!
What’s Up With Men Giving Women THEIR Phone Number?
There are several reasons why men give women their number instead of asking for hers like a man should. What is up with these weak wimpy Beta males and their cowardly approach to getting to know a woman?
Articles by Deb Cooper
What do you mean “black women have an attitude?”
When some males don’t get what they want from women, they are quick to label her as “having an attitude.” But in the real world, what does that mean? Just because a woman doesn’t show interest in YOU when you show it in HER, doesn’t mean there is anything at all wrong with who or […]
Integrity – The Missing Ingredient in Black Male/Female Relationships
Integrity is defined as “a concept of consistency of actions, values, methods, measures, principles, expectations, and outcomes. In ethics, integrity is regarded as the honesty and truthfulness or accuracy of one’s actions. Let me call out the keywords in this definition that are often missed: consistency, honesty, truthfulness, and accuracy of one’s actions. Consistency is […]
Manipulative Things Black Men Say to Make Black Women Jump Through Hoops
In this multi-part series, veteran advice columnist and dating expert Deborrah Cooper (popularly known as “Ms HeartBeat”), takes her single female followers by the hand and leads them through the minefield of the sinister, manipulative, and controlling behaviors of men. From flat out lying to using prisoner of war type mind control techniques, any single […]
Interracial Dating – How White Men Can Date Black Women
Repeatedly black women have expressed to that the biggest fear that Black women have about interracial relationships is the worry that she is being used as a social experiment, fetishized, and not truly loved. Columnist Deborrah Cooper shares insightful tips for non-black males interested in a romantic relationship with a black woman.
Guest Posts
When a Son Loves His Mother
A loving song sings a wedding day song to his beloved mother. This is the kind of love only mothers and sons have. Congrats to the new Mrs. Watson.
Abusive Relationships: 10 Signs of an Abusive Man
Signs of an abusive man can range from emotional, verbal, physical, or sexual abuse. Frequently an emotionally abusive man is also a verbally abusive man or a combination of several abuse types. Clear signs of an abusive man can usually be found after a few dates if you pay attention, ask a lot of questions and do some investigating into his past.
Dating Tips: Make Your Online Dating Profile Stand Out
Finding love online is possible, and creating a great online profile is the first step to making that happen. Anyone who takes the time to heed the advice in this article is sure to find exactly what they are looking for.
My Muppet Heart
How dating partners resemble Jim Hensen’s Muppets
Interracial/Intercultural Love
Black Woman Japanese Man – What to Teach Our Kids About Race?
How should a black woman and Japanese man handle the complex issues of mixed race children?
White Man with Black Woman Interracial Relationship Needs Clarification
White man in love with black women is confused about the status of their relationship and doesn’t seem to understand that she is not going to give him a title until he lets her know where his head and heart are.
Disappointed in my White Friend Because She Lost Her Virginity to a Black Guy
Reader questions his disappointment in a female friend that lost her virginity to a Black guy instead of a White one.
Do Black women believe stereotypes about White men?
Many Black women seek to date interracially because they believe White men are better than Black men by virtue of their skin color. Is it smart to believe in racial stereotypes?
What's Happening?
40 Days of Rain on DBR Black Men – Index of Posts
This index of our series “40 Days of Rain on DBR (Damaged Beyond Repair) Black Men” provides easy access to our discussion on the behavior and attitudes of black men and how those attitudes and behaviors are damaging to black women, black children and the black community as a whole.
Survey for Women – My Escape from Blackistan
Survey for black women who have through their own efforts successfully removed themselves and their children from the crime-ridden, drug and vermine infested, abusive environments referred to as BLACKISTAN.
President Obama and the Gay Marriage Debate in Black America
Black Americans tend to be very religious and the Christian right is hammering away at Obama for taking a stand on gay marriage rights. This is why I believe his strategy to be inclusive of a marginalized sub-group of Americans was the smartest move any President has ever made.
Leave Women and Girls Alone – Stop Street Harassment Week March 18-24, 2012
March 18-24th is International Stop Street Harassment Week. Girls and women around the world will organize to raise awareness of what gender based street harassment is, how it hurts women, and why it must stop.
Relationships
What’s the most trivial reason you ever heard for dumping someone?
Dear Ms. HeartBeat: I dumped a girl I was dating for what people told me was a super stupid reason and told me I was petty and that my excuse was trivial. I wanted to know what you thought was the most trivial reason someone has ever dumped someone? What kinds of things have come […]
Talking to People I Have Nothing in Common With
Dear Ms. HeartBeat: Some people seem to be really good at small talk and connecting with strangers they meet. I struggle with it and feel I am wasting my time but I want to do better and connect with more people. How do I talk to strangers even when I feel we have nothing in […]
Join Me for the First “Debinar” on Better Understanding Yourself
In a Google Webinar poll, I asked women to share the top three concerns or problem areas they had in their lives and in their relationships. My goal was to hear directly from site visitors and YouTube subscribers the topics they’d most want me to address in a planned webinar series. Hands down the #1 […]