This year Hallmark released Father’s Day cards for single moms, and Deb Cooper put it on a meme which caused a firestorm of controversy in the black community this past week. Why can’t single moms be honored with a card on Father’s Day if they’re doing the work of both parents? Instead of complaining, why don’t these absentee black fathers step up for their offspring?
There are several reasons why men give women their number instead of asking for hers like a man should. What is up with these weak wimpy Beta males and their cowardly approach to getting to know a woman?
Can the toddler property laws about ownership also apply to dating between adults? The sense of entitlement and ownership some men have towards women definitely raises the question.
A young man is confused about why his date kissed him and asked to see him again, then went cold for days – even after he sent her flowers.
Umar Johnson is a self-proclaimed “nationally certified” expert on child psychology who is given lots of credit and support for his somewhat controversial and sometimes downright crazy theories. Most recently he has been associated with attempting to collect $5 million to buy the land and buildings of now-defunct historically black college St. Paul College in Lawrenceville, Virginia. Here’s why he’s not the man for the job.
Jeremy Meeks is a 30 year old former gang member of African American descent caught up in the criminal justice system and locked up in a cell. But as he proved this week, he can pull the positive attention and sexual interest of more women than 75% of the men walking around free. And these salty ass dudes can’t STAND it.
Marriage is pushed on black girls as an achievement (get a ring!), but on black boys as harmful and dangerous. So the males avoid it. Yet, they turn around and attempt to judge and condemn black women who are unmarried as if she is somehow faulty, bad or lacking in some way — when in reality he had no intention of marrying her in the first place! He is just using her single, unmarried status as an excuse to avoid accountability for his deceitful actions with women who he knows long for commitment and a husband.
How is it that on one hand Black men are referred to as Kings and believe themselves entitled to be in a leadership role in any relationship, household or family. Yet, on the other they complain that Black women need to do more “uplifting” and “help a Black man be successful” and “be a helpmeet” (whatever that botched up word means)? I don’t get it.
A loving song sings a wedding day song to his beloved mother. This is the kind of love only mothers and sons have. Congrats to the new Mrs. Watson.
Signs of an abusive man can range from emotional, verbal, physical, or sexual abuse. Frequently an emotionally abusive man is also a verbally abusive man or a combination of several abuse types. Clear signs of an abusive man can usually be found after a few dates if you pay attention, ask a lot of questions and do some investigating into his past.
Finding love online is possible, and creating a great online profile is the first step to making that happen. Anyone who takes the time to heed the advice in this article is sure to find exactly what they are looking for.
How should a black woman and Japanese man handle the complex issues of mixed race children?
White man in love with black women is confused about the status of their relationship and doesn’t seem to understand that she is not going to give him a title until he lets her know where his head and heart are.
Reader questions his disappointment in a female friend that lost her virginity to a Black guy instead of a White one.
Many Black women seek to date interracially because they believe White men are better than Black men by virtue of their skin color. Is it smart to believe in racial stereotypes?
This index of our series “40 Days of Rain on DBR (Damaged Beyond Repair) Black Men” provides easy access to our discussion on the behavior and attitudes of black men and how those attitudes and behaviors are damaging to black women, black children and the black community as a whole.
Survey for black women who have through their own efforts successfully removed themselves and their children from the crime-ridden, drug and vermine infested, abusive environments referred to as BLACKISTAN.
Black Americans tend to be very religious and the Christian right is hammering away at Obama for taking a stand on gay marriage rights. This is why I believe his strategy to be inclusive of a marginalized sub-group of Americans was the smartest move any President has ever made.
March 18-24th is International Stop Street Harassment Week. Girls and women around the world will organize to raise awareness of what gender based street harassment is, how it hurts women, and why it must stop.
Dating for almost a year, he calls 10x a day and spends all his free time with one woman, but still refuses to acknowledge to her, his family, his friends and even himself that he is in a relationship and in love.
When a man gets defensive and tries to place blame on his woman about something HE failed to do, that is a major character flaw that should make one reexamine the relationship. Only a man-child refuses to be responsible or accountable for their behavior and tries to make every poor decision and misstep he took a woman’s fault.
A young woman finds out that her boyfriend of two years is living a down low lifestyle and secretly having intimate relations with men. Now she isn’t sure how to handle it or what to do.
A reader observes that the majority of advice letters from women fall into the category of loving men who don’t love them back. Why do the women hang onto these sad, unfulfilling relationships so long?
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The vast majority of the women who reviewed this meme acknowledged that they’d heard some if not all of these deflections and excuses from men. I just thought it important to provide a reality check on the issue of why more black women aren’t married. We get blamed for being single in large numbers as if we are faulty and deficient in some way, when in reality as long as you mess around with chumps like this that make every excuse in the book to NOT marry, you will remain single for the rest of your life.
You will find out what type of person he is very quickly if you pay attention. Never think that anything YOU did or said caused him to disrespect you. He is not a child. Men know very well how to treat women. Anything other than respect is a test to see what he can get away with or his passive-aggressive attempt to demean and degrade you on the sly.
When her 14 year old girl suddenly started drinking, doing drugs and acting “fast” there is always a reason. A mother writes Ms. HeartBeat for suggestions on how to help her child.