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Toddler Property Laws vs. Dating

Toddler Property Laws vs. Dating

Can the toddler property laws about ownership also apply to dating between adults? The sense of entitlement and ownership some men have towards women definitely raises the question.

Overanxious Guy Moving Too Fast Gets the Boot

Overanxious Guy Moving Too Fast Gets the Boot

A young man is confused about why his date kissed him and asked to see him again, then went cold for days – even after he sent her flowers.

Interracial Relationship Confusion

Interracial Relationship Confusion

A young black woman worries about the dirty looks she thinks she gets from black and white people when out with her white boyfriend.

My 14 Year Old Daughter is Out of Control and I Need Advice

My 14 Year Old Daughter is Out of Control and I Need Advice

When her 14 year old girl suddenly started drinking, doing drugs and acting “fast” there is always a reason. A mother writes Ms. HeartBeat for suggestions on how to help her child.

Articles by Deb Cooper

Unanswered Questions About a Five Million Dollar School for Black Boys

Unanswered Questions About a Five Million Dollar School for Black Boys

Umar Johnson is a self-proclaimed “nationally certified” expert on child psychology who is given lots of credit and support for his somewhat controversial and sometimes downright crazy theories. Most recently he has been associated with attempting to collect $5 million to buy the land and buildings of now-defunct historically black college St. Paul College in Lawrenceville, Virginia. Here’s why he’s not the man for the job.

If All the Water Were Removed From the Sea, it Still Wouldn’t Be as Salty as Y’all Are

If All the Water Were Removed From the Sea, it Still Wouldn’t Be as Salty as Y’all Are

Jeremy Meeks is a 30 year old former gang member of African American descent caught up in the criminal justice system and locked up in a cell. But as he proved this week, he can pull the positive attention and sexual interest of more women than 75% of the men walking around free. And these salty ass dudes can’t STAND it.

PUBLIC SERVICE ANNOUNCEMENT #1595 – MARRY YOU? AIN’T NOBODY GOT TIME FA DAT!

PUBLIC SERVICE ANNOUNCEMENT #1595 – MARRY YOU? AIN’T NOBODY GOT TIME FA DAT!

Marriage is pushed on black girls as an achievement (get a ring!), but on black boys as harmful and dangerous. So the males avoid it. Yet, they turn around and attempt to judge and condemn black women who are unmarried as if she is somehow faulty, bad or lacking in some way — when in reality he had no intention of marrying her in the first place! He is just using her single, unmarried status as an excuse to avoid accountability for his deceitful actions with women who he knows long for commitment and a husband.

Who Said its the Black Woman’s Responsibility to Uplift the Black Man?

Who Said its the Black Woman’s Responsibility to Uplift the Black Man?

How is it that on one hand Black men are referred to as Kings and believe themselves entitled to be in a leadership role in any relationship, household or family. Yet, on the other they complain that Black women need to do more “uplifting” and “help a Black man be successful” and “be a helpmeet” (whatever that botched up word means)? I don’t get it.

Guest Posts

When a Son Loves His Mother

When a Son Loves His Mother

A loving song sings a wedding day song to his beloved mother. This is the kind of love only mothers and sons have. Congrats to the new Mrs. Watson.

By April 2, 2013 0 Comments Read More →
Abusive Relationships: 10 Signs of an Abusive Man

Abusive Relationships: 10 Signs of an Abusive Man

Signs of an abusive man can range from emotional, verbal, physical, or sexual abuse. Frequently an emotionally abusive man is also a verbally abusive man or a combination of several abuse types. Clear signs of an abusive man can usually be found after a few dates if you pay attention, ask a lot of questions and do some investigating into his past.

Dating Tips: Make Your Online Dating Profile Stand Out

Dating Tips: Make Your Online Dating Profile Stand Out

Finding love online is possible, and creating a great online profile is the first step to making that happen. Anyone who takes the time to heed the advice in this article is sure to find exactly what they are looking for.

By July 9, 2012 0 Comments Read More →
My Muppet Heart

My Muppet Heart

How dating partners resemble Jim Hensen’s Muppets

By June 15, 2012 0 Comments Read More →

Interracial/Intercultural Love

Black Woman Japanese Man – What to Teach Our Kids About Race?

Black Woman Japanese Man – What to Teach Our Kids About Race?

How should a black woman and Japanese man handle the complex issues of mixed race children?

By October 9, 2012 0 Comments Read More →
White Man with Black Woman Interracial Relationship Needs Clarification

White Man with Black Woman Interracial Relationship Needs Clarification

White man in love with black women is confused about the status of their relationship and doesn’t seem to understand that she is not going to give him a title until he lets her know where his head and heart are.

Disappointed in my White Friend Because She Lost Her Virginity to a Black Guy

Disappointed in my White Friend Because She Lost Her Virginity to a Black Guy

Reader questions his disappointment in a female friend that lost her virginity to a Black guy instead of a White one.

By February 23, 2012 0 Comments Read More →
Do Black women believe stereotypes about White men?

Do Black women believe stereotypes about White men?

Many Black women seek to date interracially because they believe White men are better than Black men by virtue of their skin color. Is it smart to believe in racial stereotypes?

By November 30, 2011 0 Comments Read More →

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40 Days of Rain on DBR Black Men – Index of Posts

40 Days of Rain on DBR Black Men – Index of Posts

This index of our series “40 Days of Rain on DBR (Damaged Beyond Repair) Black Men” provides easy access to our discussion on the behavior and attitudes of black men and how those attitudes and behaviors are damaging to black women, black children and the black community as a whole.

Survey for Women – My Escape from Blackistan

Survey for Women – My Escape from Blackistan

Survey for black women who have through their own efforts successfully removed themselves and their children from the crime-ridden, drug and vermine infested, abusive environments referred to as BLACKISTAN.

President Obama and the Gay Marriage Debate in Black America

President Obama and the Gay Marriage Debate in Black America

Black Americans tend to be very religious and the Christian right is hammering away at Obama for taking a stand on gay marriage rights. This is why I believe his strategy to be inclusive of a marginalized sub-group of Americans was the smartest move any President has ever made.

Leave Women and Girls Alone – Stop Street Harassment Week March 18-24, 2012

Leave Women and Girls Alone – Stop Street Harassment Week March 18-24, 2012

March 18-24th is International Stop Street Harassment Week. Girls and women around the world will organize to raise awareness of what gender based street harassment is, how it hurts women, and why it must stop.

Relationships

Toddler Property Laws vs. Dating

Toddler Property Laws vs. Dating

Can the toddler property laws about ownership also apply to dating between adults? The sense of entitlement and ownership some men have towards women definitely raises the question.

Overanxious Guy Moving Too Fast Gets the Boot

Overanxious Guy Moving Too Fast Gets the Boot

A young man is confused about why his date kissed him and asked to see him again, then went cold for days – even after he sent her flowers.

Interracial Relationship Confusion

Interracial Relationship Confusion

A young black woman worries about the dirty looks she thinks she gets from black and white people when out with her white boyfriend.

My 14 Year Old Daughter is Out of Control and I Need Advice

My 14 Year Old Daughter is Out of Control and I Need Advice

When her 14 year old girl suddenly started drinking, doing drugs and acting “fast” there is always a reason. A mother writes Ms. HeartBeat for suggestions on how to help her child.

Other Recent Posts

PUBLIC SERVICE ANNOUNCEMENT #1590 – NO FELICIA, YOU DO NOT TEACH MEN TO RESPECT YOU

PUBLIC SERVICE ANNOUNCEMENT #1590 – NO FELICIA, YOU DO NOT TEACH MEN TO RESPECT YOU

You will find out what type of person he is very quickly if you pay attention. Never think that anything YOU did or said caused him to disrespect you. He is not a child. Men know very well how to treat women. Anything other than respect is a test to see what he can get away with or his passive-aggressive attempt to demean and degrade you on the sly.

Public Service Announcement #1590 – THE FANTASY OF THE DEADBEAT MOTHER

Public Service Announcement #1590 – THE FANTASY OF THE DEADBEAT MOTHER

Short of disappearing overseas under assumed identities, no woman can keep a child away from visitation with it’s father. All visitation requires is that the father be interested in and willing to use the legal system to demand his rights. Unless he is a cretinous, violent felon, he will get them.

Why Do Guys Keep Telling Me What Type They Are Attracted To?

Why Do Guys Keep Telling Me What Type They Are Attracted To?

Why do guys date her then tell her what kind of woman they REALLY like – a type that is not her? Ms. HeartBeat has some great information about these types of knuckleheads to share.

By February 28, 2014 0 Comments Read More →
Is This Guy Serious About Us?

Is This Guy Serious About Us?

Young woman confused about the direction of her online dating relationship and why the guy she’s seeing keeps and updates his dating profile.

By February 24, 2014 0 Comments Read More →
What is an Alpha Male and How Can I Become One?

What is an Alpha Male and How Can I Become One?

Alpha males are placed in the role of preferred leader of a group simply by the confidence, success and physical attractiveness they possess. They are a trifecta of manhood. You are not an Alpha male and can never become one, but you CAN improve your chances for being chosen by women with attention to a few key areas.

By December 23, 2013 0 Comments Read More →
Top 7 Reasons Black Men Don’t Want to Get Married

Top 7 Reasons Black Men Don’t Want to Get Married

According to statistics, black women are the least married demographic in the nation. Though there are black women with no interest in marriage, there are still a large number of young black women who dream of having a wedding where they wear the white gown and become Mrs. Somebody or Other. But black women do not make the decision to be married alone, they need a husband. Why are black men so reluctant to marry?

BWE and the 12 Commandments of Sisterhood

BWE and the 12 Commandments of Sisterhood

The only way out of the mental and emotional hole black women are in is to join hands and pull each other up. Columnist and social researcher Deborrah Cooper proposes 12 Commandments of Sisterhood as a great starting point for the Black Women’s Empowerment movement.

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