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Relationship and dating advice columnist of Ask HeartBeat! Has enjoyed dishing out insightful yet hilariously funny advice, tersely worded reality checks and "let me slap you upside the head" wake up calls to men and women around the globe since 1991.

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What do you mean “black women have an attitude?”

When some males don’t get what they want from women, they are quick to label her as “having an attitude.” But in the real world, what does that mean? Just because a woman doesn’t show interest in YOU when you show it in HER, doesn’t mean there is anything at all wrong with who or […]

Posted in: Coop's Corner

Integrity – The Missing Ingredient in Black Male/Female Relationships

Integrity is defined as “a concept of consistency of actions, values, methods, measures, principles, expectations, and outcomes. In ethics, integrity is regarded as the honesty and truthfulness or accuracy of one’s actions. Let me call out the keywords in this definition that are often missed: consistency, honesty, truthfulness, and accuracy of one’s actions. Consistency is […]

Posted in: Coop's Corner
Join Me for the First “Debinar” on Better Understanding Yourself

Join Me for the First “Debinar” on Better Understanding Yourself

In a Google Webinar poll, I asked women to share the top three concerns or problem areas they had in their lives and in their relationships. My goal was to hear directly from site visitors and YouTube subscribers the topics they’d most want me to address in a planned webinar series. Hands down the #1 […]

Posted in: Dating Advice
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Engaged for Three Years – How Much Longer Should I Wait?

Dear Ms. HeartBeat: My fiancée and I have been dating for four years and engaged for three this month. I have made repeated attempts at getting the ball rolling to actually walk down the aisle, or even to move in together, but it’s not happening! I know he loves me, but he seems hesitant when […]

What do I do when my girl asks “how much do you love me?”
By November 26, 2016 0 Comments Read More →

What do I do when my girl asks “how much do you love me?”

Dear Ms. HeartBeat: How does a man answer the question: “How much do you love me?” Is there a chart somewhere with the quantifiable data that we can refer to? Is this just a trick question? I mean, if we’ve already said “I love you” to each other, why do we need to have this […]

Why is he ignoring my calls and texts and playing with my head?
By August 21, 2016 0 Comments Read More →

Why is he ignoring my calls and texts and playing with my head?

Dear Ms. HeartBeat: Me and this guy have been friends for a while, but now we’re getting more intimate. I initiated the relationship by the way. Now he texts me like, “hey let’s get together tonight!” Naturally I respond “yeah sure, what time?” to which he never ever responds and I am left hanging. This has […]

Posted in: Dating Advice
Self-employed husband sleeps day awhile while wife works cooks and cleans
By August 19, 2016 0 Comments Read More →

Self-employed husband sleeps day awhile while wife works cooks and cleans

Dear Ms. HeartBeat: My husband and I got married 2-1/2 months ago, but we’ve been together for five years. He was laid off over a year ago and went into business for himself as a commercial mortgage broker. The first part of the year was really hard with some of the deals lingering and not closing, […]

Posted in: Dating Advice
Manipulative Things Black Men Say to Make Black Women Jump Through Hoops
By August 13, 2016 0 Comments Read More →

Manipulative Things Black Men Say to Make Black Women Jump Through Hoops

In this multi-part series, veteran advice columnist and dating expert Deborrah Cooper (popularly known as “Ms HeartBeat”), takes her single female followers by the hand and leads them through the minefield of the sinister, manipulative, and controlling behaviors of men. From flat out lying to using prisoner of war type mind control techniques, any single […]

Why Won’t He Admit That We’re in a Relationship?

Why Won’t He Admit That We’re in a Relationship?

Dating for almost a year, he calls 10x a day and spends all his free time with one woman, but still refuses to acknowledge to her, his family, his friends and even himself that he is in a relationship and in love.

Posted in: Dating Advice
Why say you’re going to do something if you don’t follow through?

Why say you’re going to do something if you don’t follow through?

When a man gets defensive and tries to place blame on his woman about something HE failed to do, that is a major character flaw that should make one reexamine the relationship. Only a man-child refuses to be responsible or accountable for their behavior and tries to make every poor decision and misstep he took a woman’s fault.

Posted in: Dating Advice
My Boyfriend is Bisexual on the Downlow!

My Boyfriend is Bisexual on the Downlow!

A young woman finds out that her boyfriend of two years is living a down low lifestyle and secretly having intimate relations with men. Now she isn’t sure how to handle it or what to do.

Posted in: Dating Advice
Why Do Women Love Men Who Don’t Love Them Back?

Why Do Women Love Men Who Don’t Love Them Back?

A reader observes that the majority of advice letters from women fall into the category of loving men who don’t love them back. Why do the women hang onto these sad, unfulfilling relationships so long?

Posted in: Dating Advice
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