Overview of The 14 Major Love Styles

Unconditional Love Style: Unconditional lovers do not need a partner to return their affection in the same ways as it is given, or to the same extent. This style is self-sacrificing and believes it is better to give than to receive. They often play the role of martyr “there is nothing you could do to make me stop loving you.” These partners often lack self-worth and self-love. People with this love style are basically parental in nature and live their live through their partner’s.

Sexual Love Style: Sexual lovers value sexual satisfaction above all other types of sharing. If sexual satisfaction is maintained by their partner, any other relationship conflict can be more easily tolerated and solved. At the first touch of their partner’s hand, this style can tell whether love is a possibility. This type uses sex as a general cure-all for relationship partners, using sex as a substitute for talking and problem solving. When angry, they will most likely withhold sex as “punishment.”

Game Playing Love Style: Game players enjoy searching for truth in their partners. They pry and shake partners to see how they stand up to crises. They prefer partners with a developed sense of humor. Compatible partners must be intelligent, resilient and able to handle the unexpected. They seek a worthy opponent in this game of life, in which everyone participates. They don’t trust others and are generally unethical opportunists.

Self-Centered Love Style: Self-centered lovers tend to avoid intense expressions of love. They shy away from love, because love translates into being responsible for others. They are very guarded about personal freedom and put their needs before their partners. They make few demands on their partner and don’t appreciate the partner making any on them. They are too self-centered to keep commitments; they can only give love if they initiate it and NOT if it is demanded of them.

Status-Seeking Love Style: Status seeking lovers are conscious of social rank and standing. They enjoy being on center stage, and detest the average or typical. They are trendsetters, attracted to high achievers with social status and notoriety. Their partner’s physical attractiveness is also very important to them. Their focus on achieving social status and approval alienates them from others and creates many secret enemies.

Traditional Love Style: Traditional lovers seek partners who can affirm and assist them in satisfying their socialized needs as males and females. They are monogamous and committed to the institution of marriage. Sharing a home and rearing children is key. They expect men to act like men, and women to act like women. Difficulty and frustration can follow if you step outside the boundaries of their traditional social roles.

Consciousness-Expanding Love Style: These lovers are drawn to partners with beliefs and lifestyles which enhance and expand their self-awareness and knowledge. This attraction is not only an intellectual or pleasure-seeking pursuit. It is a reality-based partnership with the primary purpose of sharing uplifting experiences. They are often moody and over committed. Their relationships suffer because they get so “caught up” in their projects and ideas.

Information on purchasing “Do We Really Know what Love Is?” or any of Dr. Dailey’s other works on love and relationships available on his website Your Love Style.

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