Dear Ms. HeartBeat:
Met a guy and we exchanged numbers. We spoke the next day and all seemed well. We believe in a lot of the same things, want the same things, and have a lot in common. Now here is my concern…
While speaking he asked when was the last time i was intimate. I was thrown a little by that question but i answered. I asked when was the last time he was, he says ..” Being that im out of out of commission, its been about 3-4 months.” Now when he says out of commission he means he had surgery on his knee. So my question is …Should i be concerned about this or just respect his honesty? From what it sound like to me , if he didn’t have surgery then he would still be sleeping with whomever.
Yes I will be speaking to him later on this, it really just donned on me the comment he made. What do you think? I am looking for a serious relationship and he is well aware of that and we are in agreement on wanting the same thing. Is it me or is this a major red flag.
Girl please! He is nothing but an uncouth booty hound. Trying to figure out how much work he will have to put in before he can get some. That knee surgery thing is a weak excuse. Men can sit in a chair and get some and his knee would never be touched. LOL!
First of all, you need to get some game. You NEVER answer a question like that truthfully, falsely or any other kind of way. It’s none of his business. Just like how many men you may have slept with in your lifetime. None of his business. I swear you women talk too much and tell too much of your affairs to men you don’t even know. What in the world would possess you to answer that question instead of cussing him out? He doesn’t care to know your middle name, or anything about your life goals or past that made you the woman that you are today. Nope, his chief #1 interest is how long its beensince you last got some?
Girl, it appears that you have no game. And since you have no game, you got caught in what I call “The Parrot Game.” In that he asks you a question about what you like, you say “oh I like blah blah blah!” Then he parrots everything you just said back to you with “yeah me too!” The end result of the game is that you gave him all the ammo he needed to pretend to be just what you were looking for. When you hang up from talking to him, you think you have a lot in common with some clown that is only after free tail.
Always remember, a true gentleman may want to jump your bones, but he is well mannered and savvy enough to know that such conversation or even alluding to such things is uncouth and disgusting to women and not done. Since this one either lacks such social graces or doesn’t care that he is offending you, he should be dumped forthwith and right away.
This little situation is going to do nothing but go downhill as he disrespects you more and more because you allowed him to from the very first phone call.
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