Why Men Worry About Your Past

Dear Ms. HeartBeat:
My fiance has just about quit wanting to have sex. Before, we were just fine. We had sex pretty often. But all of a sudden, he just doesn’t seem to be interested. He says it isn’t my fault but what else am I to believe? He knew I wasn’t a virgin when we met but that didn’t seem to matter. Now, he is constantly asking me about the first, and only other guy I was with. Every question brings up bad memories, but I try to answer honestly. What should I do?

Ms. HeartBeat Responds:
You should never have answered this question. Ever. It is not a man’s business what you did with your body and some other guy.

When men ask for these details they are being stupid. When women answer the question and "be honest" they are being stupid too. Men cannot handle hearing or even thinking about what some other man did with your body. You "trying to answer honestly" and telling him all the gory details is just making the situation worst!

Stop talking to him about it. Tell him that you are what you are and if he can’t handle it and accept that then he needs to get out of your life. Give his ring back if he gave you one and move on to a man that is more mature.

Young guys for some reason want to think that they own you sexually and that no one else should have ever touched it but them. Older more mature guys know differently and appreciate a woman with sexual expertise that satisfies every time, right on time.

But the main thing is that you women need to stop talking to men about what you have done sexually in the past. It is none of their business. STOP TELLING THEM!!!!!!

MsHeartBeat

Relationship and dating advice columnist of Ask HeartBeat! Has enjoyed dishing out insightful yet hilariously funny advice, tersely worded reality checks and "let me slap you upside the head" wake up calls to men and women around the globe since 1991.