Single Moms...You Can Find Love!  Just Revolutionize Your Dating Patterns!

Are you single and divorced.  Here you are, with children in tow trying to get back on the dating scene.  Does dating have to be a chore?  Is there any way to raise the "fun" level and eliminate the drama? Rachael Zavala has compiled a volume of information that will intrigue both the male and female readers.  And on Wednesday, July 30th, Ms. HeartBeat will interview Rachel as we discuss her "been there, done that" analysis of dating patterns and dating mistakes.  

For several months I've been thinking about what type of award we could give out.  Stupidest Question of the Week was suggested, but that's so overdone.  Then the answer was revealed to me like a spiritual oops upside the head... The Sucka of the Week Award!  How perfect is that?  This week's award goes to Jesse Jackson for his nasty remarks about cutting off the nutts of Barack Obama while miked up in a television studio.  How stupid and how much of a hater can one man be and not explode?  We peeped what Jesse was all about a long time ago, and nobody wanted to elect a classless fool for President.  Well, until Georgie Porgie got 'elected' that is.  Speaking of fools and classless folks with bad judgment: A woman wonders what to do after flirting with her best friend's husband - a man who happens to be her own husband's cousin!  One dude tries to explain his cheating and one-night stand by telling me how hard he tried to "avoid" having her come over to his place.  A wife is angry that her husband hogs the television night after night and hides the remote.  Is it true that men only like to date younger women?  And why do people like Ms. HeartBeat anyway?  These and other mysteries of the Universe are revealed!

Why is it that so many parents are afraid to say the word "no!" to their children? I've observed parents being kicked, punched, screamed at, called names and talked to with disrespect, and whined half to death by their bratty, spoiled monsters.  They plead and negotiate and bribe instead of taking decisive command. Why don't these parents have the strength to tell their children to stop screaming, stop acting a fool, and do right it now because I said so!  Join me as I launch the AskHeartBeat.Com Let's Bring "NO!" Back to Parenting Campaign!

A male buddy and I recently discussed men and the reasons you guys stand around gawking, but not speaking to the ladies at parties and nightclubs.  My buddy provided a wide range of excuses for such inaction, but ultimately we agreed that shyness, insecurity and hesitation have no place in romance!  The bottom line for "shy" single men is this:  you are allowing your fear of rejection to keep you from going after what you want.  And if you want to win the gold medal prize of love, you gotta get in the game.  In other words, you "shy" guys need to man up! 

If love is a puppy, Overlove is a ravenous Doberman.  Overlove is an addiction, right up there with drugs, alcohol, food and sex.  Some people kill for Overlove.  Some die for it.  If you, or someone you love, is in a wildly dysfunctional relationship--filled with all the drama and trauma of a “Jerry Springer Show”--you need to know about Overlove.

The eight favorite words of any liar are “I was gonna tell you the truth but...”  Maybe if we paid more attention to the eight words preceding any incredulous explanation of wrongdoing we could nip that lie before it has an opportunity to flower into a full-blown poisonous plot.

Compromise is a very interesting word with very interesting definitions: something accepted rather than wanted; potential danger or disgrace; a settlement of a dispute in which two or more sides agree to accept less than they originally wanted.  In life, we are sometimes forced to make compromises. Some are small, while others can be life changing or lead to misery.  Make sure your compromises are not detrimental to your mental or emotional health!  Here's how...

Just like most other Black women, I have, during many times in my life, been extremely puzzled and confused as to what black men want from Black women... Do they want a good nurturer and mother, an intelligent and hard-working professional, or someone with all T & A? I just can't figure it out. Brothers say one thing but act the opposite way. Why can't they just be honest and upfront about what they want from us?