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    You Are NOT in a Relationship and He is NOT Your Man! Print E-mail
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    Written by Deborrah Cooper   
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    Women write the "Dear Ms. HeartBeat" advice column every week, seeking help understanding why their latest "relationship" went sour.  Most times after digesting the facts, it's clear as the nose on your face that there WAS no relationship at all.  Therefore, the writer's expectations of fidelity, commitment or involvement were totally misplaced.  In other words, get a clue woman... he ain't trying to be with you like that!

     

    Don't Get it Twisted...You Are NOT in a
    Relationship, and He is NOT Your Man!

    Three Waysto Know if You Are Confusing a Booty Call
    With a Real Relationship

    ©2008-2010 Deborrah Cooper/AskHeartBeat.Com

     

    Women write my advice column, seeking help understanding why their latest "relationship" went sour. After digesting the facts, it's often obvious to me that there WAS no relationship at all and expectations of fidelity, commitment or involvement were totally misplaced.

    I'd like to share with you the three primary mistakes women make differentiating between sex-based convenience associations and loving committed relationships:
     

    #1 Women Put Too Much Stock on Words 

    One of the primary tools the player has in his arsenal is a smooth tongue.   Words of love flow from his lips, often within hours or days of meeting.  A woman desperate for someone to call her own will latch onto those words like a life raft.  

    "I have a boyfriend and he says he loves me but the problem is he never shows it. I mean, we speak with each other once every week or two.  When we meet up we speak like strangers, and he just starts to do physical things.  I really don't know whether he just wants me for my body or if really loves me, although he says he does."

    Talk is cheap and means absolutely nothing unless a man's words and actions are in sync.  In this case, his mouth is saying one thing but his behavior saying something entirely different.  Players can run game using words for months on end, but it is very difficult for them to maintain a game with his behavior for more than a few days.  Steer clear of early sexual involvement to avoid being set up as a "booty call," no matter how many times he professes to love you.   Stay sharp, watch, look and listen carefully. If there is ever a conflict and his words aren't matching what is happening, believe what a man DOES, not what he SAYS.



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