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    Written by Deborrah Cooper   
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    Why Are Parents So Afraid to Just Say "NO?"
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    Parents beg and plead instead of dealing firmly with their bratty children!Why is it that so many parents are afraid to say the word "no!" to their children? I've observed parents being kicked, punched, screamed at, called names and talked to with disrespect, and whined half to death by their bratty, spoiled monsters.  They plead and negotiate and bribe instead of taking decisive command. Why don't these parents have the strength to tell their children to stop screaming, stop acting a fool, and do right it now because I said so!  Join me as I launch the AskHeartBeat.Com Let's Bring "NO!" Back to Parenting Campaign!

     

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    Why is it that so many parents, especially Moms, are afraid of saying "no" to their children?  Are parents today spineless weenies, raising a generation of selfish spoiled brats?  Are you guilty of rewarding your children's disrespectful treatment with an unending stream of material goods and unyielding devotion? 

     

    Parenting: A Brat Today, A Social Nightmare Tomorrow?

    Every parent wants their children to be happy, and I understand that. But the key here is to remember that you are your kid's parent, not their friend. You have been given the job of raising a young person into a responsible, law-abiding, positive contributor to society. You are not there to be your child's giggle buddy. 

    That means sometimes you are going to have to make decisions that your child won't like. You'll have to say "no!" to things that your child wants to do. You will have to say "no!" when your child wants to go places you don't approve of, wear clothes you don't approve of, or date people you don't approve of. You have to be the parent, and that means your word is law.  Establish yourself as the authority in the household. Let your kids know MY WAY OR THE HIGHWAY!

     
    Just Say No and Mean It!  

    Parents that say "no!" then give in after the child whines and wheedles teach that your word means nothing and that with the slightest pressure, you will bend to your child's will. Giving into your spoiled child's demands, allowing yourself to be manipulated with tears, threats to run away, harsh words ("I hate you!") or other negative behavior means you are a weenie. It also means you need to grow a spine and get in the habit of telling your brat "no!" Undisciplined children often end up in prison as adults

    Pleading for compliance, using bribes, negotiating, saying "please" repeatedly, or refusing to ever set limits for your child is not parenting, it's begging for cooperation from a mini-terrorist! Stand up for yourself and say "no!" and "stop!" I vote that parents say a combination of both words at least 10 times per day.

    Be a parent your child respects, and raise your child to get along in the world. The world is not going to fold and bend to his or her will like you do. Police knock sense into those that forget there are rules and regulations in the world that do not apply "only to other people."



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