| Living Together Before Marriage is Dumb |
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| Written by Deborrah Cooper | |||||
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If Your Goal is Marriage, Don't Move In Together Until You Say "I Do!"
In college I thought that living together was probably a good idea. We'd both get the opportunity to "see how things worked out" and save money on both rent and utilities. But I'm older now and have a lot more life and relationship experience under my belt. And after spending two decades observing people's relationships, I've come to realize that living together doesn't do one positive thing for a couple or their relationship. Living together is not the path to a happy, long-lasting marriage. If you feel that you are rather clueless about relationships and wondering why you always end up with non-committal, game playing, cheating, lying, chickenheaded suckas? Tired of settling for booty calls and friends with benefits relationships when you really want someone to love? Men and women - get your romantic life in order with Ms. HeartBeat's new dating and relationship advice guide Sucka Free Love!
The Good, The Bad and the Ugly of Cohabitation Carolyn is an administrative assistant at a major corporation in downtown San Francisco. "There's a guy on my job now who's shacking up with his fiancé. He doesn't seem to be as enthusiastic as he was when they weren't living together. I wonder how that's going to turn out?"Regina reports that one of her best friends is experiencing this now. "She and her man have been together 3 years, living together for 1+, and she's ready to marry. He's not. Why should he be, he's got it all right now! What's the paper going to mean to him? Now, she's ready to lower her standards (of wanting to be married before she has children, yada yada) and have a child with him (of course with the stupid notion that maybe this will help the relationship move toward marriage. I want to say to her "HELLO! IT AIN'T GONNA HAPPEN. And if it does, do you really want to look back and feel that you had to trap your man into marriage?)!" Erlinda is a recent college graduate and witnessed "move-in mania" amongst her friends. "I wouldn't move in with a boyfriend unless I had a ring and a date. Even then, it would only be a few weeks before the wedding. If we're getting married toward the end of the month, I would move in at the beginning of the month, but not before then. From what I've seen in these shacking up situations, all a woman gets from "playing house" is taken advantage of!"
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