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    Written by Cory Brown   
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    I, like the brother who wrote "Women Prefer Dogs to Nice Guys," used to be baffled and perplexed over sisters at conferences and on radio shows lamenting over the "man shortage" while noting that I was available and willing to get something going on the relationship front.

    No More Mr. Nice Guy!
    ©1999, 2008 by Cory Brown

     
    Once upon a time I was a nice guy. 

    Not anymore!

    You see, from my experience and observation, most women really do want to have a good man in their lives.  Being disease-free, gainfully-employed, spiritually-led and well educated are plusses which nice guys should not discount.  However, nice guys should understand two key points about women: (1) They will test your self-confidence (2) They will see how long you will put up with their crap. 

    On self-confidence, I've found that women appreciate men who are sure of themselves and aren't "honey-do's" (as in "Honey do this, honey do that...") before the relationship has moved beyond its initial stages.
     
    Most of the women I've been with appreciated my decency and my thoughtfulness; however, I must confess to self-destructing on more than one occasion due to my lack of understanding that most women want to see if a man can stand up to her and have his own opinions.

    Also, it's not wise for a man to cater to the beck and call of a woman.  Sometimes women say things as a kind of venting process and like for the man to listen and to assure her that everything will work out on her behalf. 

    One of the traps that nice guys fall into is to try to solve a woman's problems.  This has probably landed more men into the "Friend Zone" than one would care to know (or at least that I would care to admit. LOL!).  Although many nice guys have a healthy appreciation for women, these guys should realize that women are tough and were doing their thing long before  Brother man got into the picture.  Be empathetic but keep your mouth shut on ways to solve her problems.  


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