| Black Man's Blind Dating Rules |
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| Written by Romare | ||||||||
Page 5 of 6 Do not discuss past relationships. Past relationships are just that...in the past. Do not try to impress nor garner sympathy by discussing past relationships. If the infamous question of "what happened to your last relationship" comes up you can politely return the question with "what do you mean by what happened" forcing her to appear nosey. Follow that with "i do not care to discuss my past relationship I'd rather learn more about you and your interests." No harm no foul keep it moving and keep it light.
Do not agree to a double date. Especially, with her best girlfriend...this is the making for disaster. You cannot get to know your date intimately while she is giggling and having a grand ol' time with her best friend. Furthermore, if you agree to such an arrangement she will not have respect for you, since she'll be shirking the responsibility of getting to know you intimately...and with you paying the bill she'll enjoy this free ride even more.
Control your humor. While women love humor you don't have to turn the first date into Def Comedy Jam. Done right, humor can open things up by bringing a smile to her face and keeping things light, but do not let her form a comic view of you, which could diminish her respect. Too much humor can make her not take you seriously thus sabotaging her romantic interest, and the objective of the date is romance.
Furthermore, do not use her as a source of your comedic material or punch lines...this is a sure fire way to kill the romance kissing a second date good-bye. So, temper your humor and make sure in the end she is laughing with you and not at you.
Do not talk about yourself excessively. It is okay to answer questions about yourself but keep it brief and to the point. Do not throw all of your marbles on the table. Leave something to her imagination. Women love to fantasize and being mysterious allows them to envision you as a potential "knight in shining armor," and talking excessively about yourself to the point of bragging will knock you right out of her dreams quickly.
Focus the conversation on her trying to obtain as much insight into her personality as possible. Do not pry but make sure to ask some poignant questions like..."where do you work and describe your position and the people you work with." This question will give you insight as to what type of person she is and how receptive she is to responsibility, authority, and how she deals with others.
Make sure to listen carefully and do not be judgmental nor offer corrective measures, just pay close attention to her degree of reaction and proceed accordingly. |
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