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    Written by Candace Williams   

    Each Wednesday and Saturday night at 6:00 p.m (PST)/9:00 (EST), advice columnist and author Deborrah Cooper hosts The Date Smarter Not Harder Internet radio talk show.  On tonight!

    829 Signs Your Man is Cheating On You!
    Saturday, February 20, 2010

    women fighting mad over men's behaviorIn light of Tiger Woods' recent exposure as a cheater, women everywhere are wondering if they too, like Tiger's wife Elin missed the signs that their man is cheating.

    Tonight's show focuses on the things men do to set up a situation which makes it easy for them to cheat. We'll also uncover how cheaters get away with it, signs a man is either thinking about cheating or actually doing it, signs of cheating that women usually overlook, signs which reveal the identity of the other woman, and how a wife or girlfriend should handle cheating behaviors.

    Guest expert is Ruth Houston, author of "Is He Cheating on You? 829 Tell-Tale Signs" which is the result of nine years of research on infidelity. Please join us!

    Listen over your computer or enjoy chatting with other listeners by logging onto http://www.blogtalkradio.com/askheartbeat.  Participate in the live discussion by calling 347-327-9215.

     

    Developing Trust and Intimacy in a New Relationship
    Wednesday, January 27, 2010
    We've entered new year, and along with that will come new romantic relationships. However for many couples, the painful issues from the past (betrayal, cheating, rejection and abandonment) will impact their ability to trust and open up their heart to love. What can we do to provide new partners with the open communication, trust and clean slate they deserve?

    Marty Babits, an experienced psychotherapist, has worked with hundreds of families and couples over the past 25 years will be our guest. Mr. Babits supervises family and couples therapists at the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy in NYC and is a Board Certified Diplomate in advanced clinical social work. His book The Power of the Middle Ground is an easy to read self-help book that gives clear guidelines and suggestions for improving communication and developing love and intimacy. It features communication tips that are useful for both singles and couples. Please join us to discuss the issues that undermine many potentially successful relationships.

     


    Establishing and Maintaining Boundaries
    Wednesday, February 3rd, 2010

    Women often profess to being terrified of being alone. Some women, enter into relationships that are painful, cold or abusive even after a little voice in their head says "this guy is bad news!" Why do women and even some men have such a hard time establishing and maintaining boundaries with regards to who they allow into their lives and beds?

    Karol Ward, LCSW guests tonight and discusses her book "Find Your Inner Voice." This book will teach you how to make decisions about love, relationships, health and spirituality by using your body as a natural compass. When you learn to trust your instincts and recognize your intuitive voice, you can use them both to make more positive life choices. Karol's articles and expertise have been featured in Cosmopolitan, Experience Life Magazine, CosmoGirl, IDEA Fitness Journal, and Best Body Magazine. Join us!  

      

    Things Men Do to Drive Women Away
    Wednesday, February 6th, 2010

    Last month we addressed the things women do that drive men away, now its the ladies' turn! What do women report are the top things men do that drive women away from dates, relationships, love, commitment and marriage? Whether you are female dating men that have run you off, or a man that did some of these dastardly deeds women complain of, we want to hear from you. We'll be discussing traits and behaviors highest on women's lists that make them run in the opposite direction from the men in their lives as they say "awww hell nawww, I'm outta here!" 

     

    Things Women Do to Drive Men Away...
    Saturday, January 2, 2010 (6:30 PST/9:30 EST)

    What would you say are the top things single women do that drive men away from dates, relationships, love and from commitment? Whether you are male dating women that have driven you away, or a female that did some of these dastardly deeds, we want to hear from you. We'll be discussing traits and behaviors highest on men's lists that make them run in the opposite direction as they say "awww hell nawww, I'm outta here!"  

     

    Becoming His Wife
    Wednesday, January 6, 2010
    bride with bouquetWhat is it that men are looking for in a wife in 2010? Seems lots of men seem to hold onto the fantasy image of a wife that wears hot lingerie, always smells fresh, never says NO!, cooks, cleans and submissively anticipates and caters to his every need. Are these expectations realistic? Christine Pembleton, the author of Lord, I'm Ready to Be a Wife: The Complete Guide to Moving from Single to Married God's Way chats with Ms. HeartBeat about this issue. If you want to get married ladies, you must ask yourself is it for the right reasons? Her book addresses the reasons why women should get married, and how to attain a marriage mindset to prepare yourself to be a wife.

    Are Women The New Men?
    Saturday, January 9, 2009

    Women have become increasingly educated, assertive, powerful, and financially independent of men. Women are holding it down and doing everything on their own. But what does that leave for men to do and be? Have men and marriage kept up with the changes in women? What role does the modern man play in women's lives and in relationships? Have men lost their way in our new society? Guests tonight include Michelle McKinney Hammond, author of "Ending The Search for Mr. Right" and "The Sassy Girl's Checklist for Living, Loving & Overcoming." 

     

    Black Men and Their Relationships With Black Women
    Saturday, January 16th, 2010 
    6:00 to 8:00 p.m. (PST)

    blackmenblackwomen

    What is behind the conflict between Black men and Black women? Most of it would seem to be a major difference in foundational principles and beliefs about what makes a man, what makes a woman, and what makes a relationship "work."

    Many Black men believe a woman should submit... but what is she submitting to? How do Black men view roles in relationships? Why do so many Black men choose to shoot down the messenger because they don't like the message - resorting to name calling, blaming and denigrating females? What impact do the masks we wear have on our ability to really appreciate each other's strengths, and see each other for who and what we are? And finally, when a Black man insists a woman accede her power so he can feel like a man, what is he really seeking?

    The impact of Christianity on the Black man, and discussion of submission, relationships, dating and love. Guests tonight are Michael D. Teague whose journey to manhood has been a combination of successes, failures, joys and sorrows. He utilizes his experiences to assist men in their own journey; his book Rise and Walk! Seven Steps to Purposeful Living is an inspirational, self-help book for men. Also joining me tonight is my oldest brother Clinton, a minister of the gospel of Jesus Christ.

     

    The Male Need to Control Women
    Saturday, January 30, 2010


    Tolu author of why and how women are exploited by men worldwideMost women are unaware of the socialization they've been raised under and never question their beliefs about what women should do, be, or say aHasani Pettifords it regards interactions with males. Our guests tonight bring to light many attitudes and behaviors that rob Black women of their joy and power. Tolu is the author of the eye opening review of world culture and its damaging effects on female children and adults entitled "Why and How Women Are Exploited By Men Worldwide.

    Hasani Pettiford is an award-winning speaker and author of Why We Hate Black Women, which investigates the stigma of what it means to be black and female in America. This show is guaranteed to provide one of the hottest discussions on Black male/female relationships on BlogTalkRadio. You don't want to miss it! Call in at 347-327-9215.

     

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