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    Is He Interested In Dating Me or Not? Print E-mail
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    Written by Deborrah Cooper   
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    how to tell if a man is interestedHow can I tell if a guy is interested in me?  We went out on a date and  I had a great time with him and would like to see him again, but I am confused.  I wonder if I failed to send out the right signals to encourage him positively OR if he was just ignoring my signals because he was not interested.  I thought we had a lot in common and got along well.  So how can I tell if the interest is mutualt?  What signs should I look for to know a man is interested in me or not?


    How to Tell if a Man is Interested in Dating You... or Not!
    ©2005-2008 Deborrah Cooper / AskHeartBeat.Com.  All rights reserved.
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    Ladies, if a guy had the gumption to ask you out, then he had at least enough interest to want to get to know you better.  A date is NOT a relationship.  A date or even three or more does NOT MEAN that this guy is your boyfriend!  
     
    A date is merely time both parties have set aside from their busy lives to spend on each other exchanging information and discovering if there is any common ground and interest to build on.  Until you are in a committed relationship you need to date several guys.
     
    Now three things can happen during a date:

    • During the course of the date he may like what he discovered, be bursting with excitement and dying to see you again; 
    • He may have decided that you are a nice girl but not the girl for him relationship-wise (maybe more of a friend); or 
    • Being out with you was painful and boring and he would rather stick an ice pick in his eye than ever see your face again. 

    However, even if the response is #2 or #3, a guy with good home training will at least be polite and cordial during the date and what we call “nice” to you.  That “niceness” should not be taken to mean there is any serious romantic interest though.         
     
    On the other hand, the early mention of things that would get your head spinning like him saying:  “it would be great for US to spend a weekend in January up at my parents cabin skiing” (when it’s the middle of June and you are on your first date) is most likely nothing more than a seduction game to get the booty ASAP.

    Here is my list of the top 10 things guys tend to do before, during and after a date when they are sincerely interested in seeing you again with the intention of possibly getting something going. In the second column is the list of things guys do before during and after a date when they have absolutely NO interest in you whatsoever: 


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