Are You Controlled By Sex?

[MsHeartBeat]

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[devineone]

"Sex alone means nothing without a solid relationship behind it"

Nor does sex mean anything without emotional investment being shown by both people involved.

I have to say that in the past,  I have been with someone longer than I should, not so much because the sex was good, it was, but more because I was in love with that person.  Great sex without some type of emotional feeling behind it for me is too cold.

I realized that I couldn't continue in that situation because my feelings weren't reciprocated.  While I was making love, with my body, my mind, my spirit and my heart, this person was just having sex with me and relegated me to the "woman he wanted to call when he was feeling horny" role in his life.  Ultimately I couldn't take that and left that painful situation.  No woman with any type of gumption about herself should allow herself to be used as a living jerk-off doll to some guy who can't emotionally invest in her.

[mochagirl1]

DO, I totally agree!  Sex alone can only make a person feel good for only so long.  Soon, a person has to realize that intimacy within the confines of a relationship is so much better.  When I was younger, I had a brief relationship with a guy who was not as emotionally involved as I.  I too, realized that a strong committed relationship was what I really wanted and needed.  I ignored all the stupid comments from my friends urging me to "just do it," and was celibate until I got into a really good relationship with someone I could love and respect and have those feelings reciprocated.  I don't regret that decision at all.  Because the man I had that relationship with ended up being my husband!   

[devineone]

I hear ya Mocha!  Aren't you glad you didn't listen to your friends?  I don't want to "just do it" either.  Sex for the sake of sex would make me become hardened in a way that I don't want to be when it comes to that.  Not sure how to explain it, but it's not a path I want to follow.  I'd rather be with the guy who wants to share all of himself with all of me, not someone who just wants sex from me.