What Do You See Happening Here?

[MsHeartBeat]

A close friend of mine had a date this weekend... she brought the guy to the Raiders game, so we all got to meet dude and be around him for several hours.  She's known him for quite a few months, but I think this is only like their 3rd date or something.  I teased her later and told her it looked like dude was a real gentleman and quite smitten and maybe even falling in love.  She said she didn't see all that.  So let me tell you what I noticed and you tell me what you think.

#1 He was very attentive (even though he was like all the other dudes, nose deep in the tv watching other games before we went into the coliseum).  He asked her if she needed anything, got her another drink, more food, etc.

#2 She was hot and got a bit sweaty just like the rest of us!  But HE got a napkin and wiped her off without her even asking.  The rest of us were in awe at that move. lololol

#3 He noticed EVERYTHING about her outfit, playing with her hair, facial expressions, etc.  Made his little comments. Not sure if that was to look for flaws and talk smack later, or if he was just that into her.

#4 She said he seems really open and talks about his past, his exes, his family, his childhood - not just the good stuff either, he shares the ugly dirt.

#5  I saw him looking at her a lot.  Little smile on his face when she looked up and saw him checking her out.  AWWW so cute.

#6  Even though he was with the fellas, very friendly guy, he would come over and sit with her a bit, then go back.  You know, it wasn't like he ignored her or anything.  Seemed like when she needed something, he was Johnny on the Spot. 

So what do you all think?  I am going to forward this thread to her to read so tell it!

[devineone]

Ms HB, did you ask your friend what exactly did she see with this dude since she she said "She didn't see all that" when you pointed out this man's gentlemanly behavior?  What is she used to?

What did he act like after the date, was he trying to get her in bed after they spent a 3rd date together?  Was his attention to her just to get her to give it up, or was it because he genuniely like her.

I've had dates with some doozy's lately, guys that act the gentleman during the date but after it's over they are trying to get some, so it makes me wonder if the date was just a ploy for them.  They 'treat me nice so they can get something later and not because they genuniely liked me and wanted my company.

I'm going to trust (based on your advice column) that you are a pretty good judge of what you observed so if you say he is a gentleman and is smitten then chances are he is.  Sometimes, the people involved are too close and can't see the behavior.  Also if they aren't used to that kind of behavior they may not recognize it. 

This is how a guy is supposed to act.  Unfortunately and it's sad to say that this behavior has gotten so rare that when we do see a guy acting this way, we notice it and say wow   when it should be regular normal courteous behavior.  Used to be way back in the dark ages, guys would stand when a lady entered the room.  Nowadays you barely get a guy to give up his seat on a commuter train to a woman in her 8th month of pregnancy...too sad.

[cool breeze]

I'll be back to really reply, but I can't see how any man who wants to be taken seriously by a woman takes her to a Raiders game..

That place is dangerous..

[MsHeartBeat]

hahahaha!  SHE took HIM!  She has season tix.

[devineone]

I'll be back to really reply, but I can't see how any man who wants to be taken seriously by a woman takes her to a Raiders game..

That place is dangerous..

I get discount tickets through my workplace so I've gone to many Yankee games this season especially since this is the last before the stadium is torn down. (Even though they didn't make the post season playoffs.   Oh well Go CUBS!
I've suggested that for dates as well.  I am very interested in hearing your thoughts CB on this matter.  You're a wealth of info. and I learn a lot.