Can You Like Something/Someone TOO Much?

[MsHeartBeat]

What would that mean to you?

What is that all about? A guy friend and I had drinks last night. He was telling me about this girl he was all into. Said he'd been backing off from her. I asked why... thought you were really into this girl? He says yeah but he has to back away and not spend as much time with her or talk to her as much.

And he said it's not because he doesn't enjoy her because she is pretty, smart, funny as hell, and he has a great time with her. Nope. He claims its because he likes things with her "too much."

I was laughing at him, thinking surely you jest! But he swears this is his reason and that his family raised him that way. Having no concept of what "liking it too much" means, I was confused and still don't get it. There is nothing I've ever experienced that I like that I felt getting more of would qualify as "too much."  lolol!!  He told me I was spoiled.

What the hell was he talking about? Can someone please explain it to me?

[Scorpio]

You can indeed like something/someone too much. It's called addiction (or obsession in the case of someone).

I think what your friend was trying to say is that he didn't want to fall in too deep/too fast with this woman for fear that it may cloud his judgement. I mean we all know someone that fell hard for another person and totally lost their mind (or worse ended up as a pawn of the target of their affection.)

[devineone]

I can certainly see your point Scorpio, but I think if a person was emotionally mature enough, then they can handle a person in their life even if they like them a lot.  They wouldn't feel the need to play those type of games that ultimately may cause more harm than good in a budding relationship. I think a person can like someone a lot without it turning into an addiction or an obsession.  To me, this speaks more about the person rather than the object of their affection.  If someone can't handle liking someone without it becoming an addiction (or obsession), then this person has some more emotional growing up to do especially in how they view relationships and how they behave in them.  He or she needs to learn to pace themselves and not stop their lives just because they are "sprung".  It's all in how they handle themselves.  They can do that without 'backing off' and playing mind games.

If a guy I was dating and we were heavily into each other and enjoying each other's company fairly regulary and then he suddenly changes his behavior, that would only make me suspicious of his behavior.  I'd wonder what he was doing?  Since I'm used to him talking to me and spending time with me, and that suddenly stops without any explanation, then I'd wonder "who or "what" is occupying his time?  I think as long as two people are enjoying each other's company and they are happy, then it's all good.  Why create problems in a relationship when there are none by backing off from a good thing.