10 Things A Guy Will Never Tell You

[devineone]

Got this in an email from one of my friends

10 Things a Guy will never tell you
 Matt Titus

1. No matter if a guy is married, in a relationship or single, he classifies every woman that walks by him into one of two categories: "Would sleep with" or "Wouldn't sleep with." Every woman that crosses his path is looked upon as a potential sexual object no matter the degree of happiness in his relationship.

2. 95% of all men WILL CHEAT if they are 100% sure of not getting caught.

3. No matter how beautiful a woman is or how great she is in bed, once a man has sex with her more than 15 times, her looks and body become secondary to keeping him around. She better have another unique quality.

4. In a social setting, a man only initiates conversation with a woman because he wants to sleep with her. He really has no interest in anything else, but seeing her clothes on his bedroom floor.

5. No matter how happy a man is in a relationship he always physically desires a new woman, what makes a true man, is the one who doesn't act on it. And despite what they say, this desire will never go away no matter how "in love" he is with his girlfriend or wife.

6. If a woman sleeps with a guy before he gets to know her and like her, he will never call her again.

7. If a woman brings up commitment first, the guy will never commit.

8. When a guy is dating a women and she lets him know that he is the only one she is dating, he will lose interest in her.

9. Married men that cheat leave their wives for their mistresses 3% of the time.

10. Men under the age of 30 are not candidates for marriage, unless they grew up fast.

[MsHeartBeat]

This guy gotta be real young and immature.  The thought processes here are focused completely on sex and sexual conquest, which is a very narrow perspective.  If women really believed this kind of thing, everyone would turn lesbian and leave men to figure out life on their own!!

Like #7 for instance.  If a woman brings up commitment and the guy doesn't want to go that way, he isn't going that way and never WAS GOING TO GO THAT WAY.  What a woman does is just cut bait sooner by uncovering his game.  Women should give dating a reasonable time frame, but if he isn't moving towards a 1 on 1 dating situation so that you two can grow as a couple within that time frame, bring up commitment so you can find out where his head is.  If he just wants to play around and you want something more serious, cut him loose and move on.

#8 A great many men only want to date one woman at a time and HATE that multi-dating stuff.  These guys lose interest when the woman dates more than one man at a time.  They feel like she is using them for entertainment and free dinners or whatnot, and not like she is really trying to get to know and get close to him. 

#10 What is "grow up fast?"  lololol!  These modern men still live at home after college and their Mommy washes their clothes and clean their rooms and their parents pay their cell phone bills - even though they have great jobs.  I don't get the babying mentality of modern parents, but a man like that isn't a good bet for a husband even when he is 40.  He's a dependent diaper wearing pansy ass baby! Who wants to MARRY a baby???

[Informed Investor]

#8 A great many men only want to date one woman at a time and HATE that multi-dating stuff.  These guys lose interest when the woman dates more than one man at a time.  They feel like she is using them for entertainment and free dinners or whatnot, and not like she is really trying to get to know and get close to him. 

Women especially women in their 20s have way to many male friends. Women in their 30s all seem to have that one X they have been in love with for over a decade. He comes in and out of her life whenever she has a boyfriend  ROFLMAO! Things would be much easier if people were honest. I will tell a woman in a heartbeat I'm actively dating no big deal. By stating your intentions up front a lot of heartache can be avoided.

[devineone]

Women especially women in their 20s have way to many male friends. Women in their 30s all seem to have that one X they have been in love with for over a decade. He comes in and out of her life whenever she has a boyfriend  ROFLMAO! Things would be much easier if people were honest. I will tell a woman in a heartbeat I'm actively dating no big deal. By stating your intentions up front a lot of heartache can be avoided.

II
I seem to recall in a thread topic that has since disappeared but one that you started, where you were taken aback because a woman you had gone out with, straight up asked you if you were sleeping with someone.  You were surprised that she just flat out asked you that.  So what about guys, 20’s 30’s ... who have the FB on the side, that they don’t count as a girlfriend, meanwhile they are ‘actively dating’ another girl.  How honest is that?  Unless the new girl asks “Hey are you sleeping with someone?" (like that girl asked you), The guy will not come out and admit that they are because they don’t consider their FB as actively dating and probably won’t be giving that FB up any time soon even when they do embark on a new relationship with the girl they are ‘actively dating’.

[devineone]

#8 A great many men only want to date one woman at a time and HATE that multi-dating stuff.  These guys lose interest when the woman dates more than one man at a time.  They feel like she is using them for entertainment and free dinners or whatnot, and not like she is really trying to get to know and get close to him. 

#10 What is "grow up fast?"  lololol!  These modern men still live at home after college and their Mommy washes their clothes and clean their rooms and their parents pay their cell phone bills - even though they have great jobs.  I don't get the babying mentality of modern parents, but a man like that isn't a good bet for a husband even when he is 40.  He's a dependent diaper wearing pansy ass baby! Who wants to MARRY a baby???

#8  Ms. HB, I always thought you advocated that a woman should date around because that is what dating is all about. Trying on different guys to see who is a good fit? (date around, not sleep around).  When is it OK to date different guys? I have lots of guy friends but one guy I date.  I go out with my guy friends and have a good time.  In fact, I'm going to the movies with one tomorrow night.    I enjoy the company of guys.  By the same token, I have female friends too.  We get together monthly for our monthy 'hen happy hour at our favorite Thai restaurant.

#10 Your comment is a trip and so true these days.  Guys are spoiled.  They aren't like my brother-in-law.  That's a real man who can do it all for his family and he does!  Unfortunately men like him are becoming extinct. 

[MsHeartBeat]

Devineone"

#8  Ms. HB, I always thought you advocated that a woman should date around because that is what dating is all about. Trying on different guys to see who is a good fit? (date around, not sleep around).  When is it OK to date different guys? I have lots of guy friends but one guy I date.

I do advocate that.  I am just pointing out that guys, once they start seriously looking for Mrs. XYZ, tend to only want to date one woman at a time, and they want her to date only him.  Out of fairness, this is a subject which should be openly discussed so that everyone is on the same page.  Guys feel that if they are getting into a woman (and paying for dates and whatnot, and she is doing the same with several other guys), the woman would be perceived to be using him for fun and free entertainment and meals. 

But yes, women should date around.  Just be honest that is what you are doing.  IF the guy balks and you aren't ready to be committed in a 1 on 1 situation, tell him that you need more time.  And if you like him and want to spend more time getting to know him better, ease the pressure and possible burden by paying for some of the dates, or going dutch. 

[Informed Investor]

I seem to recall in a thread topic that has since disappeared but one that you started, where you were taken aback because a woman you had gone out with, straight up asked you if you were sleeping with someone.  You were surprised that she just flat out asked you that.  So what about guys, 20’s 30’s ... who have the FB on the side, that they don’t count as a girlfriend, meanwhile they are ‘actively dating’ another girl.  How honest is that?  Unless the new girl asks “Hey are you sleeping with someone?" (like that girl asked you), The guy will not come out and admit that they are because they don’t consider their FB as actively dating and probably won’t be giving that FB up any time soon even when they do embark on a new relationship with the girl they are ‘actively dating’.

I’m “dating someone” and I’m “actively dating” are two separate things. “Dating someone” implies a commitment to one individual and “actively dating” signifies interaction with a multitude of people. Dating and having sex aren’t the same either. It’s usually safe to assume that when one is dating a person chances are the couple in question are having sex but this isn't 100% of the time.

It’s ignorant for any man or woman to assume that whoever they just met isn’t having any interaction with the opposite sex. All she had to ask was do you have a girlfriend. I just have an issue with some total stranger asking me are you sleeping with anyone LOL. After some outings and many conversations then its appropriate to discuss sex. Asking a woman if she prefers doggystyle or missionary sex during the 1st week of the courtship is kinda outlandish right? LOL. Her asking me when she first met me if I was sleeping with someone else was the just as insane. 

[devineone]

It’s ignorant for any man or woman to assume that whoever they just met isn’t having any interaction with the opposite sex. All she had to ask was do you have a girlfriend. I just have an issue with some total stranger asking me are you sleeping with anyone LOL. After some outings and many conversations then its appropriate to discuss sex. Asking a woman if she prefers doggystyle or missionary sex during the 1st week of the courtship is kinda outlandish right? LOL. Her asking me when she first met me if I was sleeping with someone else was the just as insane. 

I see your point II, I would have been taken aback if my current guy asked me on the first date outright if I was 'sleeping with someone'.  Still asking some men and women if they have a girlfriend/boyfriend may not necessarily provide a straight answer. Some folks don't consider their fb or fwb to be their girlfriend or boyfriend or even someone they're 'actively dating', so one could get evasive answers like... 'Not really' or "I have a friend I hang out with'.  etc... I would take those answers as 'code words' to mean this dude is involved with someone on some level, then I'd ask myself do I want to get involved with that.  Still I wouldn't ask that question on the first date.  I guess this woman just wanted to cut to the chase with you.     

[cool breeze]

#8 A great many men only want to date one woman at a time and HATE that multi-dating stuff.  These guys lose interest when the woman dates more than one man at a time.  They feel like she is using them for entertainment and free dinners or whatnot, and not like she is really trying to get to know and get close to him. 

That's very true..You'll be suprised how many guys don't like to date multiple women..But if you're gonna only date one woman at a time you have to realize that you're possibly missing out on finding the right one..Because like it or not, dating is a numbers game..

As a man you have to eventually realize that you have to play the game..You don't, however, have to be a "player" or "mack"..You can be a gentleman and date more than one woman at a time..There's nothing wrong with being popular, you know..Unless you're in a committed relationship, date as many women as you can afford..