People Use the Wrong standards to Assess Their Market Value

[MsHeartBeat]

By that I mean they talk about their good job, your own home, looks, grooming, education, car, cooking or sex skills.  Okay, that's great but that is not why someone would love you or marry you (unless they just want a come up situation!). 

Because an individual looking for true love won't be impressed by your resume.  You can have all the property and toys and bank accounts in the world, but if you are a selfish asshole or a broom riding witch, no one will care! 

If you had to create a Top 10 list of what people really should focus on when developing themselves to become a suitable husband or wife, what would you say should be on it?

[devineone]

If you had to create a Top 10 list of what people really should focus on when developing themselves to become a suitable husband or wife, what would you say should be on it?

1. Sense of humor
(can get one through tough times)

2. Affectionate, lovable,  sexually passionate, romantic
(Continues to feed the fire and keep the chemistry going throughout the relationship), knows the difference between romance and sex. affectionate in that he likes to touch and be touched and is generous in the giving and receiving of pleasure. . i.e. a nice foot massage at the end of a long day

3. fun and adventurous
(A love of discovering new things and sense of childlike wonder that keeps him young at heart and mind).

4. good listener, empathetic, wise
(someone who knows when to listen, when to advise and when to just be quiet and let one vent, someone who can see issues from all sides.)

5. values good health and takes care of themselves.
(good nutritional sense, exercises)

6. home and community advocate
(takes care of home improving his family's way of life, and brings this attitude to the community and does his part to improve his community)

7. Supportive and loyal
(Supportive professionally and personally and not easily swayed by others)

8. Artistic
(shows an appreciation of the arts)

9. Dependable, trustworthy, respectful, humble
(Someone I can depend on his word/actions, someone I can trust, someone I respect, and someone who is humble...This for me means not overly proud, stubborn or arrogant.

10. Good sense of fairness/coopertative
(which means they know and practice compromising) (thanks II)


Great list II, it inspired me to clean up mine somewhat!

[Informed Investor]

If you had to create a Top 10 list of what people really should focus on when developing themselves to become a suitable husband or wife, what would you say should be on it?

Honesty: Be honest in your dealings as much as possible

Accountability: If you say you are going to do something follow up! Something as simple as returning a phone call shows you care

Teachable: I met a lot of women with a lot of rigid viewpoints. Some of them would argue down facts which one could open a book to support LOL. Its okay to have a strong POV but be willing to consider other possibilities

Compromising: We can’t always have our way but be willing to meet someone half way if the situation seems appropriate

Affectionate: A marriage isn’t a one time commitment its lifelong! Everyday think of ways you can show your spouse you care

Adventurous: A marriage can become mundane quickly if you and your partner don’t spruce things up a little. Going to work and coming home everyday isn’t that romantic. Take a class, go on a trip, do something you don’t normally do. Establish a day a month where you go out alone with no children.

Respectful: Be respectful of your relationship. Anything you do with the opposite sex that you wouldn’t do with your partner is probably inappropriate.

Motivational: Be your partners biggest motivator. Support him/her in the things they believe in.

Forgiving: No one is perfect if its something insignificant forgive forget and move on. Do you want to be right and single forever?

Sexually Appealing: Fellas don’t sit around watching football and develop the beer belly and ladies don’t sit around watching soaps and become whale like. Exercise (together ideally) stay active nobody wants to come home to non-exercising slob.