Should there be timeframe for engagement?

[tigerlilly]

Hmmm I’m wondering if she’s real or if she’s an internet troll?

Good question.  I just went back and looked and I see Sweet posted three weeks ago May 15, and hasn’t been back since.  There’s a wide variety of opinions about this I even though we all don’t agree I’d think she would be back just to check in.  Even if she doesn’t like everything that was said, or to fill in some gaps, correct any assumptions that are off base, etc.

OTOH Sweet if you have been busy or some things going on, no offense meant. 

[Ndgo]

Now this man might be thinking that he's already gone through all the drama ONE time already with this wedding stuff. He didn't call off the wedding so he might be thinking why in the world does he have to be all drawn up in the RE-planning of a wedding.

I really wouldn't make it so complicated by adding a ultimatum... especially with the due date at the end of the summer... WHEN is this wedding going to happen anyway.... Does it have to be a year off, 6 months off... dang, She could have already been married by the end of the summer.  Why drag out and prolong this? Just re-set the date, and get his confirmation. Then start seeing what can be REbooked.

Cute little weddings, especially those that have already been planned, cancelled and just need a new date really, don't need the same ground swell of planning as a 1st time event. Shouldn't she already have a dress, venue, catering at her finger-tips?

If I were the guy, *I* too might want to sit out this SECOND time around. Why reinvent the wheel? Somehow, I think this is far too much ado about nuttin... She should just gather up her maid of honor and hit the phone-lines. She doesn't need the groom for all this stuff.  I really don't see what the problem is. The whole "dream wedding" thing is not usually a "guy" thing in the 1st place. What bride in her right mind would want the groom mucking around in the plans in the 1st place? Shoot, it's "her" day anyway... Take it while you can get it!

[Ndgo]

I think some of you are downplaying the importance of healthy communication.

Men and women do NOT communicate in the same ways. No matter how much I scream, cry, beg or fling myself around the room, My Man is NOT going to the mall with me to shop... just not happening. He rather be shot in the head and put out of his misery. He acts as if it's killing him to look at a couple of shoes... 

That's just the nature of the beast. And I think that planning a wedding might fit into the same category for many, many, many grooms. Just set the date and tell them where to show up and they will be more than happy.

It wouldn't matter how much I tried to FORCE my man into helping me pick out a pair of shoes... he just shuts down and I'm literally talking to the wall... 

I know that SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO.... I act accordingly....  ... when I get the chance to go shoe shopping... I just stock up.... no need to get all argumentative about it... if he complains, I just say... You shoulda been there.... There - problem solved....    Nothing he can say then.... 

[Informed Investor]

NDGO

I have an eye for fashion both men and womens. Women can dress men and men can dress women in most cases. I love womens legs and feet. Nothing like some sexy legs in heels.  Heels are usually one of the first gifts I give a woman to. They trip out when they realize that i can match up their style...without spending 3 hours in the store lol.

[Ndgo]

Face it II, you are not the typical guy... or man's man.... 

but until you can match your woman's 3+ hour shoe shopping spree, you don't know nothing about what I'm talking about... it takes a helleva man to be able to handle that.. and he's usually gay.... sowwrry... but true... 

[Informed Investor]

You are right i'm usually giving advice to typical guys and I'm hiring the man's man to perform menial tasks I don't have time for ROFLMAO! I'm like a cross of james bond mixed with Jay Z LOL. To cool for my own good.

Come with me to King of Prussia or Miramir and you would begging to go home... "II this is to much to many stores we can't hold the bags i'm tired of walking back and forth to the car" ROFLMAO!

Shoes aren't that deep for us brothas though. I still can't quite understand why women need a room full of shoes lol.

[devineone]

You are right i'm usually giving advice to typical guys and I'm hiring the man's man to perform menial tasks I don't have time for ROFLMAO! I'm like a cross of james bond mixed with Jay Z LOL. To cool for my own good.

I  prefer the typical guy with some of my own personal preferences thrown in. I can’t keep up with those PDiddy, JayZ metrosexual type of guys.  I’m not vain enough.  I can’t deal with a guy who spends more time grooming and in the mirror more than I do.    And I certainly don't have a room full of shoes but I do have enough.