Angry Black Men

[MsHeartBeat]

I've run into a lot of very angry Black men lately. I wonder why they are so angry at women?

I mean hateful rage - name calling, complete disgust at Sistahs, labeling all Black women as trifling, bitches that just want a free meal out of them which is why they refuse to pay for dates and want women to pay their own way, or they think every single Black woman is a whore that sleeps with 10 different men a week.

These guys are angry, resentful, full of rage and hate towards Black women, and extremely controlling.  They think the demise of the entire Black community is because Black women won't keep their legs closed and will date and sleep "with anyone."

Even in casual conversation where we might disagree on various points, they are quick to call me derrogatory names, like slut or beyatch (LOL!).  These are men in their 30s through 50s now not teenagers.

It saddens me that what I would have preferred to view as Black Kings are more like Court Jesters - complete fools.  Of course I never call them names back or assume that every Brotha I meet is nasty like them, but it is embarrassing to see such vast numbers of such men online spreading their hate and poison from one website to another.

For some reason there are quite a few fixated on attacking ME.  My brother said it is because they are jealous, I am the type of woman that is not insecure, who makes things happen of a positive nature for herself and the community at large, and doesn't find any need for a man like that, and they know it.  Makes them feel worst than they feel already he said.

Hmm. 

Anyway, I wanted to know if any of you have been running into hateful, angry Brothas like this or are they just zeroing in on me for some reason. 

I wonder why they think anyone would even WANT to date them, acting a fool like that.  No woman with good sense would ever want to marry them, for sure.

[cool breeze]

Ms. Heartbeat, your brother hit the nail on the head..Don't let the angry bitter brothers get you down..Tell them suckas to go chase some white girls..

I told a whiny one at my job that instead of complaining about women he had two choices:(1) Give the women what it is that they're looking for in a man and (2) if he wasn't what the lady in question was looking for Move on and stop whining about it..These cats whine more than third graders..That shyt ain't attractive..

I mean, these dudes are crazy..They don't think that a woman should tell them no or find anyone except them attractive..WTF?! They, however, will find the tiniest, little flaw a woman may have and will reject her outright despite their own flaws and limited options..

[devineone]

Ms. Heartbeat, your brother hit the nail on the head..Don't let the angry bitter brothers get you down..Tell them suckas to go chase some white girls..
I mean, these dudes are crazy..They don't think that a woman should tell them no or find anyone except them attractive..WTF?! They, however, will find the tiniest, little flaw a woman may have and will reject her outright despite their own flaws and limited options..

Tell it CB!  Shyt no white girl would want 'they' azz either, trifling mofos! dayum, I've been reading that examiner and some youtube postings Ms. HB put up and I've seen the comments. 

What was that article 3 types of black men?  CB is obviously in the first group and the only one of his type I've seen on this forum for the most part maybe one or two others, which proves that theory that guys like him get snatched up quick leaving the bottom feeders free and angry because most women want the CB type and not their trifling, angry, jealous hearted ,resentful, insecure azzes. 

Shyt they don't have anything to offer.  I'm involved with a good guy but if I wasn't, I sure as heck wouldn't want one of those type guys.  They can't do anything for me with that attitude. I'd rather slide naked down a straight edged razor into a vat of 100% concentrated lemon juice than to deal with a guy like what Ms. HB described and from what I've seen in these various articles.

If they're that nasty with the attitude, you know the sex is bound to be weak which is probably why they're so mad, because they can't please the woman in the ways that count, emotionally, mentally and sexually so they just get mad.

[devineone]

I've run into a lot of very angry Black men lately. I wonder why they are so angry at women?
These guys are angry, resentful, full of rage and hate towards Black women, and extremely controlling

Truth hurts and you’ve upset their paradigm when it comes to relationships and what women want and how women think in 2009.   Some guys have fragile egos and just can’t take that.

I told a whiny one at my job that instead of complaining about women he had two choices:(1) Give the women what it is that they're looking for in a man and (2) if he wasn't what the lady in question was looking for Move on and stop whining about it..These cats whine more than third graders..That shyt ain't attractive..

Check out the whiny guys from this article.  Instead of them listening to some ‘inside advice from a woman who knows what women are looking for in a man, these whiny azz dudes are complaining and resentful probably because they know they don’t fit the bill. 

’ Why women are attracted to bad boys, thugs, and players”

[MsHeartBeat]

Wow DevineOne, I had not read all the comments on that thread until just now. Those guys are off the hook negative. I wonder if they freely show that attitude to women and think they dont get a date cause they are "too nice."  Sheesh. I would RUN from a man like that.  I mean FLO JO JACKIE JOYNER KERSEE speed runnin.

And CB is right, they do tend to pick women apart with imagined fatal flaws, while holding themselves to no such standard of course. I guess I'm just seeing this nastiness and its making me wonder where I have been to not see this before.  Why is it happening now?  I've been online all over the web since the mid 1990s, and I can honestly say I have NEVER seen the horrible posts about Black women like I have seen the past 2 years.

[Kimora]

I wouldn't spend two seconds wonderin why some black fool is angry.........who knows who cares......

B/W need to worry about themselves and their health so they can live long productive lives.....never mind worryin about some fool man.......these disease minded individuals are not worth it it...

Life is too short......

[Kim22]

Deb,

Not to hate on black men, but I recently met a man who fits this category. He is 41. He told me that black women are confrontational, gold diggers, don't know their place and commenced to tell me why so many black men are dating women who aren't black and how black women (particularly me) don't know how to let a man be a man. It was very hurtful to me at first but I got to the point where I told him to do black women a favor and not date them. I can only chalk what he said about me in particular is that he is intimidated by me in some way. I don't roll my neck at him, never called him out his name, never asked him for a penny or nothing but I'm confident and don't have a problem speaking my mind. So, I let it go in one ear and out the other because there is nothing I can do about how he thinks. I find it to be pretty disturbing though. He is quick to call a woman a beyatch too. I don't understand it.

[MsHeartBeat]

HAHAHAHA!!  My girl Kimora is BACK!

@Kim: Girl if you have his email address, send him the link to my article "Why Weak Men Want Submissive Women."

In it I respond to criticisms such as his regarding the "won't let a man be a man."  He thinks a woman can stop a man from being a man? If that is so, then he is just a fraud and a perpetrator cause a real man is a man irregardless of a woman's ambition, drive, strength or talents.  A confident, together, strong man  wants someone that is a sexy smart help mate, not some dumb piece of flesh that he can command around. 

I swear.

I was on BlogTalk last night on someone else's show listening to this same group of Brothas that go around from website to website, show to show, ranting about how the black community is in a shambles, how Black women need to keep their legs closed, how even a 19 or 20 year old man at Morehouse dressed like a fairy in class is because of his mother and he was probably raised in a single parent home.

I went off, I swear,  I went crazy. Them fools got put on blast for real! I had to tell them that I am tired of hearing them whine and beyatch like little girls about the same tired bullshit ... going from show to show with the same tired toxic rhetoric. I told them they disgust me because they are all educated, middle class Black men that have nothing better to do with their time than call internet radio shows every night and repeat the stupidity that flows from their lips.  I challenged them to DO SOMETHING! You have identified a problem I say, so do something about it. Put your intelligence, your free time, your energy to work in your community. Work with some young men and teach them how to treat and respect women. Talk to them about the importance of keeping it in their pants if they don't want to become a father. DO SOMETHING besides run your damn mouths.

Man, the phone got quiet as hell and nobody said shit for a long time.
Here is the link:

I didn't say anything disrespectfully, but I did call them on their nonsense. I'm just tired of hearing people complain and point the finger of blame at others, when they aren't doing anything to improve the situation with these kids. Not one damn thing.

Blech!