Why Do Men Have Such a Hard Time Understanding Flirting?

It seems a lot of guys think that if a woman talks to them (flirting), that somehow she is obligated to follow through with some ass. This is a ridiculous proposition and one that makes my blood boil. I've heard so much anomosity towards women over this issue the past few weeks, I've been motivated to write an article. If any of you have comments or suggestions about flirting, please post them here.

Anyway, I wanted to share a few flirtatious situations I've been in recently so people could see that flirting is fun, its exciting, it makes you happy - but it doesn't have to lead to ANYTHING MORE.

Dimple Boy
I like dimples and pretty teeth. I also like close cropped beards. So when I saw a guy with all three working I sashayed on over and was like "poke me with a fork, I'm done!" He looked confused or maybe that was curious, and he laughed. So then I said "I really like brothas with nice beards and nice smiles and you have both. I just had to come on over here and give you your props. You go boy!"

"Oh thank you very much" he says.

I tell him my name and give him one of the website postcards I had printed up (hope he doesnt read this!). He tells me his name. We shake hands. We chat for a few minutes about you all and the site and my book. He was astonished at some of the advice stories I shared. Told him I won't keep him but it was nice chatting. He was very happy I could tell and we had a good 10 minutes or so together. Now the card has the website address, my email, and the voicemail phone number on it that I use for site business. If he wants to get in touch he will reach out. If not, I had a great 10 minutes with a guy that seems pretty okay.

Yella Suit Man
Let me start off by admitting that I'd had a couple of Cosmopolitans. Anyway, I see this big ole tall brotha wearing a MUSTARD YELLOW SUIT. I start smiling. I wasn't smiling AT HIM per se, but more at what I was thinking. He saunters on over and sits down next to me grinnin hard. Trying to mack. He was very handsome up close, but that suit was NOT happenin' AT ALL. I kept expecting to hear the SUPERFLY theme song playing for real! Dude tells me his name, I tell him mine. I'm still cheezin hard. He says "you seem very happy tonight." I said "oh yes, I am quite entertained." He looked confused 'cause I think he was getting the clue that it was something about him. I told him that I would let him call me Cookie Monster if he let me call him Big Bird. He looked down at his suit then fell out laughing. I did end up dancing with him, even though I wanted to run!

My Boyfriend in a Wheelchair
Those of you around for awhile know that I do about 10 hours per week at a medically based fitness center working as a post-rehabilitation fitness trainer. One of my clients is a guy about 85 years old that uses a seated walker to help him get around. Now you can tell that in his youth he was a tall, really good looking guy because he's not unattractive now. He still has dimples and most of his hair, his mind is sharp and he's fun to talk to.

So one day I walked up to him talking to a couple of senior ladies and said "so how is my soulmate today?" The women stepped back and started smiling. I said "this is the hottest guy in this gym. one day he is going to admit that he can't be without me and he'll end up as my boyfriend!" Everyone fell out laughing, but this guy turned beet red and smiles and waves at me every time he comes into the facility. I tell everyone he is my boyfriend and he giggles like an adolescent every time. Is there really any harm in flirting with a guy if it makes him feel good?