Beware the pitfalls of a rich woman

[Susa]

Susa, I don't understand this thinking. Is a man who treats a woman just getting used? Why do women have such a double standard when they make more money?

I didn't make the rules, but it seems that good men won't take a gift, and bad ones make you regret that you ever did.

[Legacy]

Susa, I don't understand this thinking. Is a man who treats a woman just getting used? Why do women have such a double standard when they make more money?

I didn't make the rules, but it seems that good men won't take a gift, and bad ones make you regret that you ever did.

2 men on this site disagree with that. Either way, you didn't answer my question.

Is a man that treats a woman also being used?

[Susa]

Is a man that treats a woman also being used?

Yes, if the woman doesn't otherwise enjoy his company and reciprocate in other ways.

No, if he's thowing money to simply get something beautiful by his side, that he otherwise doesn't respect. In this instance, they're using each other.

[Legacy]

Is a man that treats a woman also being used?

Yes, if the woman doesn't otherwise enjoy his company and reciprocate in other ways.

No, if he's thowing money to simply get something beautiful by his side, that he otherwise doesn't respect. In this instance, they're using each other.

Ok, so by that logic,..if a woman is throwing money to simply get something handsome by her side, that she otherwise doesn't respect. It's *mutual* use correct?

Also, what if the man enjoys her company & reciprocates in other ways? She's not being used at all correct?

[Starchild]

How long into a relationship does this 'no treating' business supposedly apply?  Is it considered grubbing if a girl wants to take me out for my birthday or something like that?  What if she pays the tip because she has cash on her and I only have cards (waiters prefer cash)?

[Susa]

Ok, so by that logic,..if a woman is throwing money to simply get something handsome by her side, that she otherwise doesn't respect. It's *mutual* use correct?

Also, what if the man enjoys her company & reciprocates in other ways? She's not being used at all correct?

If the woman with money doesn't respect him, it's the same as if the sexes were reversed.

My comments about men who accept significant or repeated money is based upon my experience with how they tend to react to it. A birthday dinner or something occasions seems to go over well, but most women who put out on a regular basis, usually end of getting used (most men with good intentions wouldn't accept it). How often have you heard about women paying bills for men and giving a lot, who didn't end up getting used?

[Legacy]

Ok, so by that logic,..if a woman is throwing money to simply get something handsome by her side, that she otherwise doesn't respect. It's *mutual* use correct?

Also, what if the man enjoys her company & reciprocates in other ways? She's not being used at all correct?

If the woman with money doesn't respect him, it's the same as if the sexes were reversed.

My comments about men who accept significant or repeated money is based upon my experience with how they tend to react to it. A birthday dinner or something occasions seems to go over well, but most women who put out on a regular basis, usually end of getting used (most men with good intentions wouldn't accept it). How often have you heard about women paying bills for men and giving a lot, who didn't end up getting used?

Honestly,... not as much as I hear about men paying bills & giving a lot that end up getting used..

My point is this happens to *anyone* who's carrying the weight financially, not just women.

[devineone]

If  How often have you heard about women paying bills for men and giving a lot, who didn't end up getting used?

I've heard this happen a lot Susa.

[Legacy]

If  How often have you heard about women paying bills for men and giving a lot, who didn't end up getting used?

I've heard this happen a lot Susa.

And you *never* heard of this when the man is paying all the bills? Cmon...

[devineone]

How long into a relationship does this 'no treating' business supposedly apply?  Is it considered grubbing if a girl wants to take me out for my birthday or something like that?  What if she pays the tip because she has cash on her and I only have cards (waiters prefer cash)?

I've gone out on dates before and paid the tip and it worked out just fine.

[Susa]

And you *never* heard of this when the man is paying all the bills? Cmon...

Yes, I have heard of it. Never said I didn't.

[Legacy]

And you *never* heard of this when the man is paying all the bills? Cmon...

Yes, I have heard of it. Never said I didn't.

Ok, so what's the point of your initial comment? 

If this is in fact a potential reality for anyone in a situation where they are *treating* someone (ie carrying the most financial responsibility) why talk about one side in isolation & make it a gender issue? People use people. Men use women & women use men, period. However, in terms of finances there are VASTLY more women using men for money. We just don't say much about it. In fact, women frequently talk & joke about finding sugar daddies. - LOL

Also, we don't say anything about a man making 150k dating a woman making 50K. It's normative. In fact, it's even expected that men should have no issues with dating a woman who makes significantly less money. Yet for some reason, when the roles are reversed, women in some instances think they're too good for the guy? It's ridiculous & that idea is keeping women from having more options. If you got money covered, be with who you love & who loves you so long as they're holding their own.

In another post, folx were in there arguing about inner beauty versus outer beauty & how men we more superficial in terms of looks? Ok, well does this mean women are more   superficial in terms of finances? Maybe men should get credit for having more depth since they don't let the fact that a woman they care about, who makes significantly less money, stop them from being with her.

[Bambi eyes]

Maybe men should get credit for having more depth since they don't let the fact that a woman they care about, who makes significantly less money, stop them from being with her.

They don't deserve credit and they don't have more depth... here's why...

Men have been known to go to astronomical lengths to secure and fully possess a piece of good puzzy.  A man won't complain about a woman who earns less than him because if he's with her, you best believe that tail is keeping him satisfied enough that he doesn't even care about the money...Men will go broke trying to find a satisfying piece of azz and if he finds it in a woman that he actually can get along with in other areas of life outside of the bedroom, someone he can actually LOVE,  man, hes struck gold!!!... He's not worried about the finances, or about who's making more or less, because what he's got on his arm and in his bed at night is worth absolute gold to him. Just look at Ex Gov. Spitzer...he could care less what the cost, as long as he was getting his dyck polished to perfection... He didn't ask what those escorts did in their spare time or what kind of money they earned at the escort service, or even what talents these women had beyond the bedroom, all he was concerned about was...you know what. 

You will rarely get a complaint out of a man who's satisfied in the bedroom about how little his lady earns. You don't hear men complain because if he's with her, he's getting what he values most right there in that bedroom, and he knows he better not complain lest he end up like the governor searching and paying out the pocket for the much sought after tender loving puzzy....And please don't try to tell me MEN don't value good puzzy... Men will kill for it, men will go broke for it, men have lost their jobs and families for it... it ranks high in value for them, and means much more to them than "how much she earn".

I dare you to show me a man who is unsatisfied in the bedroom and doesn't have a whole list of complaints from A-Z about the woman he's married to/dating up to and including how she's making him go broke and spending all his money ... which translates into she's not bringing in nearly as much money as she's spending and on top of that I'm not being satisfied. 

[Bambi eyes]

And furthermore... for anyone who dares ask isn't the same true for a woman with regard to what she's getting in the bedroom... the answer is NO.  That's why you often hear of women who will put up with not being satisfied in the bedroom... they will go years without ever having experienced an orgasm... they will lie and pretend they are satisfied with their husbands bedroom performance (fake it)  and stay married to the man for the children's sake whether or not he's taking care of them the way they expect him to.  It doesn't matter what he's earning, or how poorly he's performing in bed, as long as he shows devotion and love towards her and their children, doesn't beat her and doesn't cheat on her and can keep them from going homeless and starving, she will generally stick with her man...  Men on the other hand will as I said before complain like a bytch if their woman is spending all the money or more money than she's bringing in and is on top of that not satisfying him in the bedroom... he will go cheat and use that to justify the cheating and be ready for a divorce...but as long as he's happy down there , and he's got the money to take care of the household without having to do backflips, and she treats him like he's da man, you won't hear a complaint out of him.

[Legacy]

Men have been known to go to astronomical lengths to secure and fully possess a piece of good puzzy.  A man won't complain about a woman who earns less than him because if he's with her, you best believe that tail is keeping him satisfied enough that he doesn't even care about the money...

Women have been known to go to astronomical lengths to secure and fully possess financial stability.  A woman won't complain about a man who isn't certifiably handsome because if she's with him, you best believe that the cash is keeping her satisfied enough that she doesn't even care about his looks...

Uh, you were saying?  Exactly..