Coolbreeze your wife is blessed to have a guy like you. You seem to be "quality people", as we say in the south. Alas The good ones are always taken. Devineone - you got CB pegged to a tee... he even had his wife in multiple manolos. The man is amazing... and yep, the good ones are always taken...snatched up real quick....
We were fortunate enough to have CB give us little peeks and snippets of his courtship of Nina... beautiful love story.... he wasn't too skurred to share. That's the way it is with true love
Ndgo, Coolbreeze is about the only brotha on this site who seems to be emotionally mature and knows how to relate to women in general and his woman in particular. I'm talking about real women. I was curious about him so I went back to read his profile and was reading snippets of his posts in different topic threads and just about everything he's said when it came to relating to and treating women right was on point!
Even if he was standing alone in his opinion, his was the voice advocating for how a woman ought to be treated. He was raised right. And when he and his wife are blessed with children, boy or girl, I know there will be another generation of kids growing up with good teachings. If it's a boy, he'll continue on with the teachings handed down to him from his father. (Even if some posters on this site privately snicker and think it's old fashioned). If he has a little girl, he'll raise her with strong self esteem so that she won't waste time with a lot of silly immature guys. (I wish my father had done that, or my mother for that matter).
Coolbreeze knows how to relate to women.
Most of these guys out here today, think just because they are professionally and financially successful, educated and can handle their business in the bedroom, and are half way cute, that's all that counts.
Yet they don't know how to relate to women, don't know how to talk "with" women. They just don't know how to appeal to women in the right way. They don't even know about courting a woman, or how to be romantic. They come off as if they're doing the woman a favor by condescending to "be with her'. A lot of these guys are arrogant.
Coolbreeze doesn't vibe like that. He comes off as a rare gentleman.
I even get guys berating women who want a gentleman like Coolbreeze. I've dated these silly emotionally immature, type of guys before and I've had relationships with guys of this ilk before I wised up and realized that this is not it. I don't want that anymore.
I want a guy like "Coolbreeze"
. A guy who genuinely seems to like, respect, admire and not afraid to really love a women. A guy who isn't afraid to say he loves his woman and hell yeah he'll buy her a pair of manolo blaniks and come on the post and shout to the world about his love. A guy who realizes that love is more than just the physical.
A guy who draws his strength from being in love with his SO and does not perceive love as a weakness or that he's whupped or any of this other negative shallow thinking. He's not ashamed of it. He's proud to be a gentleman who loves and respects women in general and his wife! In reading snippets of Coolbreeze's post, I didn't read where he talked down about women (at least not on the level as some of these men, far from it). He always seemed to advocate for the women. It's too bad that men like him are few and far between.
I've got a brother-in-law who is a good man like that. He loves my sister and loves his daughters. There isn't anything he wouldn't do for her. And because my sister and I are close, he does for me as well.
I remember when I finished college and got back from my tour and was looking for an apartment after the broken engagement and my mother was upset with me for ending things. She didn't want to help me buy furniture for my new apartment.
My brother in law (we call him woodchuck because he can make any piece of furniture with his hand). He furnished my apartment with antiques he had gotten from yard sells. I had a beautiful cherry poster bed, end tables, kitchen table.
He did this for me and my sister didn't even have to ask.
These are the types of "real men" that appeal to me now. I didn't know any better before. As the hymnal says. "I once was lost but now I'm found, was blind but now I see". I didn't see this but it's not too late. "I peep it now".
I'm guessing Coolbreeze is not in the 34 and under crowd, neither am I, and with age does come wisdom and I've learned better. And when you know better you do better and make wiser choices. No more little boys disguised inside men's bodies (when it comes to how they relate to women). No more of these little wuz guys getting into my temple.
As I said before, "Nita is a blessed and lucky woman."
(So is my sister). I'm raising my glass to a toast to CoolBreeze and my brother in law and a few others out there like him. I'm toasting you with Cristal Champaign, There are women out there who do appreciate guys on your level CoolBreeze.