The Playa or the Nice Guy: Who poses the greater threat?

[devineone]

"George Sodini", the 'alleged 'nice and quiet guy' opened fire last week, Aug. 4th in a latin dance class in Pittsburgh filled with women, after firing 50 rounds, 3 women were dead and 9 were injuured, he then turned the gun on himself.  His reason?  Women rejected him.

According to Sordini, he was a "total malfunction". No girlfriend since 1984. No sex since 1990, "rejected by 30 million" (his estimate of how many desirable single women exist). "Who knows why?" wrote Sodini. "I am not ugly or too weird."

I believe George Sodini suffered from some sort of mental defect that was never medically diagnosed. However he blamed his state of mind on the many, many women who rejected him over the years.   This leads me to wonder:  Who poses the greater threat?  The playas or the seemingly 'nice and quiet men silently seething, embittered and enraged, hating the very women they desire but can't seem to catch a break with these women.  The misogyny against women is becoming more and more prevalent and it seems more and more of these men pop a brain cell and just up and start shooting.

I find guys like Sodini scary!  Sadly, there are many, many more like him.  Just earlier in April, "Anthony Powell, the Youtube killer", stalked and killed  "Asia McGowan", a 20 year old woman, he obssessed over, who didn't even know him.  He turned the gun on himself.  I believe Anthony also suffered from mental issues.  I don't know what is with these men, who sit and silently seethe and then extract revenge on the object of their 'rejection' by resorting to violence.  I wonder is it the culture we're living in where they see the  the guys featured on all of these reality shows, and on MTV, BET, Vh1 and they want the women that these guys have.  I don't know... but it's scary as heck.

I work out in a gym classes 3 nights a week.  We were all talking about it at my last aerobics class.

[Ndgo]

"George Sordini"[/url], the 'alleged 'nice and quiet guy' opened fire last week

Yep, self-proclaimed "nice guy"... but you know, he's reasoning and excuses sound eerily similar to what we hear on the board, don't they? It's the same blame game that literally drove this guy to kill. I guess he wasn't such a great catch after all.

The guy was 48, going after sweet young things that he had nothing in common with. And he was over-reaching too... the dude was probably a 5 or 6 tops trying to cling onto a young 8 - 10... There's a huge imbalance there. He order to make up for his short-fall in personality/looks he would have had to figure out a way to make himself appealing enough to make up for that 4 - 5 point deficit.  Obviously, he wasn't willing to change so he killed random women... simple as that.

[devineone]

Yep, self-proclaimed "nice guy"... but you know, he's reasoning and excuses sound eerily similar to what we hear on the board, don't they? It's the same blame game that literally drove this guy to kill. I guess he wasn't such a great catch after all.

Yes they do sound familiar to what we hear on the board.

The guy was 48, going after sweet young things that he had nothing in common with. And he was over-reaching too... the dude was probably a 5 or 6 tops trying to cling onto a young 8 - 10... There's a huge imbalance there.

Exactly!!!  I wonder how much media is to blame for this phenomenon of men looking like Sodini with his personality and all, thinking they can get women who are just waaay out of their league.  You have so many shows like where you have sometimes fat, but mostly homely looking,funny leading men playing the role of hubby like 'According to Jim' who have wives who look waaay better than they do.  You rarely see the reverse, where the woman is plain looking but with a hot sexy handsome husband.  Men watch TV and we know how much they are influenced by what they see in the media, therefore they think the media reflects reality.   They don't want a Susan Boyle type, they want a Kim Kardasian, so they can look like "this"    This does happen once in a while, but it's not the norm. And to be honest most times when it does happen, the guy has deep pockets and/or power.  They know they are 'buying' the arm candy at that point. 

He order to make up for his short-fall in personality/looks he would have had to figure out a way to make himself appealing enough to make up for that 4 - 5 point deficit.  Obviously, he wasn't willing to change so he killed random women... simple as that.

The sad part is most of these guys like Sodini, don't have it going on in looks or personality.  They live a life of quiet despair.  In his case, he supposedly went to a lot of dating seminars to get tips so I don't know why that didn't pay off for him.  But maybe because he had underlying mental issues that were never evaluated, women could sense that he was 'off' in the head and they ran away from that.  It's too bad, that Sodini's mother (who he reportedly called before he shot those women and himself to let her know he was going to do this), didn't try to intervene and seek help for her son.  She had to have known something wasn't right with him.

[cool breeze]

Exactly!!!  I wonder how much media is to blame for this phenomenon of men looking like Sodini with his personality and all, thinking they can get women who are just waaay out of their league.  You have so many shows like where you have sometimes fat, but mostly homely looking,funny leading men playing the role of hubby like 'According to Jim' who have wives who look waaay better than they do.

That's easy to explain..Those shows always have a fat leading man who's a comedian in real life with a development deal.."The King of Queens" is a perfect modern example and "The Honeymooners" would be the classic example..There's no way that a woman that looked like the wife did on that show would ever hook up with a fat guy driving a truck for a living unless he had mafia connections..The men in the audience like the nutty guy without a girlfriend since the 80's, however, fail to connect the dots..

What hollywood is really saying with those show is, "Hey, guys!! If you're funny enough to land a development deal with a tv studio, you can have a hottie cast to play your wife!!"

[MsHeartBeat]

I was going to write about that Sodini character then decided not to. I read his blog and watched a video he'd recorded. Dude was smooth OFF KILTER.  His eyes told the story, he looked deranged. 

All the crazy ones have that maniacial glow about the eyes.  The eyes are the window to the soul, and women in tune with their power can recognize a man that doesn't have their best interest at heart and they leave him alone.  I've come across men like that in public places and get a chill down my spine. THey're really creepy. 

The issue here is that men have been socialized to believe they have a right to women's attention, bodies, energy and sex if they want it.  So when they are denied, they reflect on their teachings and what they see in the media, and they get angry. They feel they meet the standards of a "good guy" and demand what they feel is their reward. When it doesn't come, the rage is palpable and then it explodes in violence.

It's all about men's overwelming desire to control women's sexuality, which I did write about. 

[devineone]

"Ray Clark strangles Yale student"
Welp here we go again. Another misogynistic guy killing a woman he couldn’t get.
"Woman neighbor called it."

"Ray's guy friends have no clue"

"Male police erroneously calls it work place violence"

They said that it came down to 'mice'.  Of course they wouldn't just come out and say this is about a guy who is mysognistic towards woman).  They can't follow the dots.  They can't put together that he raped his girlfriend in high school, joined an 'Asian Awareness' club in high school, and then later he singles out an Asian woman to give her grief over her cage, right before her wedding.  Why single out this particular "Asian woman" about her mice cages?  Surely she wasn't the only one who didn't clean the cages.  Nah, the male cops couldn't put together the obvious pieces staring them in the face right now.

"Criminal profiler Pat Brown, another woman, called it."  fast forward to 4:00 into the video to hear her. Another angry fool killing a woman who rejected him.