It occurred to me a few days ago that many of the negative attitudes Black men exhibit towards, and the nasty words Black men say to women are in fact verbal abuse.
Women have been socialized to brush these behaviors aside and treat them casually by labeling these Brothas as jerks, assholes, and idiots. We roll our eyes in disgust, and most women do their best to ignore the behaviors, but the anger and rage must be dealt with in some way.
Personally, I think this pent up rage and the buried hurts are the chief reasons Black women are overweightÖ depressed eating to assuage our anger. But no amount of food can fill the cracks in a womanís soul. We may laugh it off, but deep down inside we know that we have been disrespected personally and as a group, as one Black man after another attempts to demonstrate his superiority and promote his agenda of entitlement.
Iíve observed men like this bristle when an intelligent, assertive Black women stands up to them and calls them on their crap. Watch for defensive, angry responses.
Youíll get hit with things like "youíre a stupid beyatch!" or "Thatís why youíre single!" or "I donít want to hear all that shit from you woman!" like you are supposed to shut up because he said so, or be depressed that you arenít married to an asshole like him, or be sad that you are an assertive powerful woman that he feels the need to bring down to his level with name calling and insults.
Since Iíve seen so much of this behavior the past few months, I decided to write and share this important information with readers. There are many ways a man can abuse a woman, but Iíve narrowed the list down to five key points to watch for.
Read the article, which is posted on my blog Living The Single Life - Surviving Dating!