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By October 3, 2011

Dating, Lies & Deception Often a Package Deal

Whether you are a teen new to dating, or single again after a breakup or divorce, it pays to date smart! Learn to recognize the behaviors that indicate your date may not be telling the whole truth.

Lies of Omission
Your date conveniently “forgot” to mention that there was a spouse at home, a baby on the way with an ex, a live-in partner, or a pending indictment for stalking. Lies of omission are the most common manipulative game singles play.

Your date’s objective is to manipulate your reality by omitting key facts. This puts you at a marked disadvantage, as you think you are getting involved in a situation and with a person that actually doesn’t exist.

To solve this problem don’t be afraid to ask pointed questions. Keep asking until you get a clear idea of who this person is, their availability, lifestyle and future goals.

Misrepresentations of Facts
This game involves pretense and deception, usually with the goal of getting you involved physically. Uncomfortable with themselves and fearful of not measuring up, they presents themselves as more and better to impress others, creating a situation you might have avoided if you had all the facts.

Examples of misrepresentations would be exaggerating income, job title, an interest in you that is more than physical, or feelings of “love” that are nothing but lust. Online posters are the worst, lying about height, weight, age, body type and build.

“I’m 6′ tall and have an athletic build, is what he told me on the phone” shared a frustrated single. “In reality he was shorter than me and had the physique of the Pillsbury Dough Boy. Runs two miles a day, my arse!”

Well, at least she could laugh about it.

Often these misrepresentations involve social status. A man you meet does work at a hospital, but he works as a nurse not a doctor. She actually did go to UCSF, but flunked out after the first year.

Statements such as these are referred to as “little white lies,” and generally viewed as harmless. But really, how confident can you be that your date is telling you the truth about other aspects of his or her life if they lie about little things?

Plain Old Big Fat Lies
Women need to remember that a great many men will say whatever they think you want to hear if it will provide him with access to the booty. You may say that you won’t sleep with any man without a commitment… one committed relationship coming right up!

Unfortunately, most people are a bit too trusting and will put a lot of stock on the words they hear. “I love you, you do something to me, I miss being with you” are magical words to many.

Reality is that lies and games are an integral part of dating, and generally of our modern society. Words can easily be twisted and spun into tall tales and fables. But a person’s actions and their day-to-day behavior, will tell you more about their lifestyle and actual feelings for you than anything else.

The smart single pays more attention to what his or her partners do than to what they say. If words of love are spoken often, but promised telephone calls never come, scheduled dates for romance are repeatedly broken, and promised gifts are never delivered, you can bet a lying game is being played.

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