Should I have broken up with my boyfriend?

Dear Ms. HeartBeat:
So last night I decided to break up with my boyfriend because he was being a complete jerk. It all started when he called me to say he was taking our puppy to his house in January. (He got the puppy but couldn’t keep it so I ended up keeping him and buying the dog everything including a vet bill when he got sick, all his shots, and some puppy classes.)

I told him he couldn’t just take him and he was like yes I can. So to shut him up I said “pay me for all his bills and then you can take him.” He ended up saying he’d call me later. But then sent me a nasty text telling me to stop charging him for every little thing and that he would give me my stupid money and take his things.

Later I tried calling him to try and talk things out, telling him how what he said was really rude when I’m not charging him for everything! I always help him pay for stuff when he needs it. He ended up not taking it seriously and ignoring me.

I was like do you think it’s a joke? He said yes and told me to relax. I hung up and told him it was over and I want nothing to do with him.

This is only one of the many occasions where I try and communicate with him and try to make our relationship better, so I’m finally done putting up with him not listening to me and realizing when he does things that hurt me. He never said anything back to this point.

Signed,
Fed Up

Dear Fed Up:
He’s a jerk and a loser. Why would you even waste your time?

Not only is he a loser, he’s broke and stupid. If it is his dog, he should have been asking you how much you put out on behalf of his dog, and offered to repay you for the vet bills PLUS gas and a few extra dollars for your trouble. After all, you did him a huge favor that you didn’t have to do. Instead of being appreciative, he is taking it out on you that caring for a new puppy is pricey. Well, just like small children, young animals cost money. Why bother wasting your time with a broke, stupid loser that can’t communicate?

I’m wondering what it is that he has that you feel is wonderful enough to use as the basis for a relationship and to call him your boyfriend anyway?

Just because you have sex with a man that is no reason to elevate him to the status of “boyfriend” honey. Is that it? Because you can bone anyone… that doesn’t make that man a quality person or good enough to be your boyfriend. This guy doesn’t listen, he shirks responsibility, is selfish, uses you financially, and he ignores what you say like its not the least bit important.

So yes, you did the right thing to break it off with him. Find someone more mature and on your mental and emotional level. This guy is nothing but a LOSER LOSER LOSER!

MsHeartBeat

Relationship and dating advice columnist of Ask HeartBeat! Has enjoyed dishing out insightful yet hilariously funny advice, tersely worded reality checks and "let me slap you upside the head" wake up calls to men and women around the globe since 1991.