Why Do I Always Get Dumped?

Dear Ms. HeartBeat:
I have a huge problem. I’ve been dating guys and have had a couple of boyfriends, but for the past 8 years everybody is dumping me. Some guys take me out for only a couple of dates and afterwards, when I start liking them, they simply don’t want to see me anymore.

It upsets me more and more. Every time I go out now, I’m afraid its going to be like that always and I will be alone my entire life. I’ve got a feeling many guys would like to have sex with me because they like the way I look, but they don’t see my personality. I’m getting depressed that nobody loves me and treats me seriously. I’m not going to bed with them, but then I don’t have sex either. Help me, please. I feel so down.

Signed,
Just Call Me Reject

Dear Reject:
You know, the fact that you haven’t had sex with them and they dump you is actually a good thing! Otherwise, you would have had sex and STILL GOT DUMPED. At least this way you avoided involving your heart and body in their stupid games.

Again, not every relationship is meant to go the distance. If these guys only went out with you a few times and felt you were not right for them, that means that they were not right for you either. You meet people, talk to them and some of them you go out with a time or two. That will go on for some time (perhaps even years) until you meet the guy that you adore and that adores you back. THAT is what you are holding out for honey.

Don’t allow feelings of desperation put you into a situation where you are globbing onto a guy by calling him too much, telling him you like him on the first date, or doing too much to let him know you want a relationship. Men RUN from women that are too eager (aka desperate) because they fear you are a stalker or will take over their life. Instead, have fun dating around and enjoy your singleness. Flirt with guys, hang out with them, be buddies, enjoy traveling and laughing and relax! You are two young to think you will end up single forever!

Remember, each stage of life needs to be appreciated for what it offers you in opportunities for growth and better understanding of self. If you are always focusing on what you DON’T have, you will never appreciate the wonderful things that you DO have.

MsHeartBeat

Relationship and dating advice columnist of Ask HeartBeat! Has enjoyed dishing out insightful yet hilariously funny advice, tersely worded reality checks and "let me slap you upside the head" wake up calls to men and women around the globe since 1991.